Do You Want To Be Less Angry?

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🗓️ 18 June 2019

⏱️ 2 minutes

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Summary

The best way to make sure you are always offended and upset is to be on the lookout for things to be offended by and upset about. The sharper your ears and eyes, the larger your dragnet for information, the more likely you are to find something that pisses you off.

And yet this is what most of us do: We have Google Alerts for our names or our businesses. We check our @mentions on Twitter. We ask our friends, “Oh really, what does so-and-so say about me when I’m not around?” We’re like water-diviners with our ability to read tone and body language, able to sense even the slightest sign that we should dig into something. Of course we’re going to be angry! How could we not be?

Seneca reminds us:

“It is not to your benefit to see and hear everything. Many injuries ought to pass over us; if you ignore them, you get no more injury from them. You want to be less angry? Ask fewer questions.”

He would have liked the piece of marriage advice that Supreme Court Justice Ruth Bader Ginsburg has always held close: "In every good marriage, it helps sometimes to be a little deaf." Because true in marriage, true in life: If you want to have less conflict, ask for it less. Forgive more. Stop trying to listen for things you don’t want to hear.

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0:36.3	Do you want to be less angry? The best way to make sure you are always offended and upset is to be on the lookout for things to be offended and upset about.
0:45.3	The sharper your ears and eyes, the larger your dragnet for information is, the more likely you are to find something that pisses you off.
0:53.3	And yet this is what most of us do. We have Google alerts for our names and our businesses, we check our app mentions on Twitter, we ask our friends, oh really what does so-and-so say about me when I'm not around.
1:04.3	We're like water diviners with our ability to retune in body language, able to sense even the slightest sign that we should dig into something.
1:13.3	Of course we're going to be angry, how could we not be? Santaka reminds us it is not to your benefit to see and hear everything.
1:20.3	Many injuries ought to pass over us. If you ignore them, you get no more injury from them. You want to be less angry? Ask fewer questions.
1:29.3	He would have liked the piece of marriage advice that Supreme Court Justice Ruth Bader Ginsburg has always held close. In every good marriage, it helps sometimes to be a little deaf.
1:40.3	Because what's true in marriage is true in life. If you want to have less conflict, ask for it less. Forgive more, be a little deaf.
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