Do You Try to Change Your Partner? When to Speak Your Mind vs Keep it to Yourself Episode 113
EmPowered Couples with The Freemans
Aaron & Jocelyn Freeman
5.0 • 589 Ratings
🗓️ 8 December 2020
⏱️ 30 minutes
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Summary
How many times have you thought to yourself "should I bring this up to my partner now, or should I just keep it to myself?" It's almost a certainty that you have even more than once because all partners will ask themselves this question at one time or another.
The biggest issue here is that if you bring it up it can cause an argument in which you both end up getting upset and can get into an Argument Hangover. On the other side if you don't say anything it can feel like you have to suppress yourself and ultimately end up feeling resentful. So what is the real answer here when it can feel like a lose-lose situation?
In this episode we will give you 5 steps to take to be able to answer this question as well as empower both of you to become even better partners to each other.
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Transcript
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| 0:00.0 | Hello and welcome to the Empowered Couples podcast where here you get modern non-boring, |
| 0:05.5 | key element, I think, non-boring relationship advice for you and your partner to communicate |
| 0:10.2 | like pros, fight smarter, and handle any challenge that faces you as a couple. |
| 0:16.5 | I am one of your host, Aaron Freeman. |
| 0:17.9 | And I'm Jocelyn Freeman, but you all just know us as the Freeman's. |
| 0:21.0 | And welcome to this episode. Do you try to change your partner? And really, when do you speak your |
| 0:27.8 | mind versus keep it to yourself? Oh, they're going to get so much out of this. It's key. |
| 0:33.9 | Normally I would ask you where this comes from, but I don't want to share what this comes from. |
| 0:36.6 | He's fired up today. This is really key for me. Where it comes from is my wanting an answer to this question. Uh-huh. And then we had our two, some of our best friends actually fly all the way in from Hawaii. Shout out to McKenzie and Michael, who actually now live here in Charlotte. |
| 0:54.3 | Everyone's moving to Charlotte with us. Yes. Anyone listening want to come down to Charlotte? |
| 0:58.5 | We are taking reservations, I guess you could say. We have a PowerPoint ready for you, |
| 1:03.1 | a pitch deck on why you should move to Charlotte, right? Exactly. Well, when the day they came in, |
| 1:08.3 | we were at the dinner table and we were talking about this topic. |
| 1:12.3 | Yeah. |
| 1:13.2 | And it's something I have thought about for a while. |
| 1:16.8 | And I'm going to give you the two reasons why for the audience because you probably would feel this. |
| 1:20.4 | There might be a time where there is something you feel like you want to change about your partner. |
| 1:26.4 | And maybe it's in their speech maybe it's in |
| 1:28.2 | an action a behavior something like that and you've had both these opportunities where you could speak up |
| 1:36.1 | but the problem is when you bring it up then they get upset maybe they get defensive now you're in a |
| 1:42.5 | disagreement you're now upset and you're like, what the heck? |
| 1:46.7 | You might have had, sometimes you might not have, but a positive intent to bring it up. |
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