Welcome to the Daily Dad podcast, where we provide one lesson every single day to help you with your most important job, being a parent.

I'm Ryan Holiday, and I draw these lessons from ancient philosophy, modern psychology, practical wisdom, and

insights from parents just like you all over the world. Thank you for listening, and we hope this helps.

It happened again. Your kid screwed up, they did something stupid, whether it was drawing on the walls or getting

caught drinking.

They hurt someone or they lied, they failed a test, or broke something important.

You're pissed and you want to yell.

But before we do that, let's stop and think, have you raised a good kid?

Have you taught them right for wrong? Have you taught them to care about other people and the truth? Yes, yes, you have. Now ask yourself, does yelling teach them these things more? Does getting upset re-emphasize what's right and what's wrong? Or does it just reinforce the power dynamic between you two? Does yelling

make them hear you more or tune you out completely? More to the point if you've raised a good

kid, do you really think that they did that on purpose? Don't you think they already feel bad?

In fact, wouldn't a calm discussion about the difference between who you know they are and the statement

their behavior made be far louder and clearer than yelling ever could be?

Remember, as you're getting upset that you're not just dealing with the situation in hand,

but you're also showing your kids how adults should act when things go wrong.

You're teaching them lessons that will impact how they treat

their employees and their own children in the future. Keep that in mind and calm down. Be understanding.

Talk. Don't yell. Let their own conscience, the one you have worked so hard to help them develop,

do most of the heavy lifting. Let them learn to see the error in their

own ways. Let them learn how to learn from their mistakes.

I talk in Daily Dad about some of these things we discover about our fathers later on, right?

Because they didn't tell us, they played it close to the vest.

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