Hey, what's up? This is Ramses Job. And I go by the name, Q Ward. And we'd like you to join us each week for our show Civic Cipher. That's right. We discuss social issues, especially those that affect black and brown people, but in a way that informs and empowers all people. We discuss everything from prejudice to politics to police violence, and we try to give you the tools to create positive change in your home, workplace, and social circles. We're going to learn how to become better allies to each other. So join us each

Saturday for Civic Cypher on the IHeartRadio app, Apple Podcast, or wherever you get your

podcast. Welcome everyone to this episode of Amy and T.J. And we're talking about something

on this episode that I think a lot of you listeners will relate to.

And it's certainly something I have struggled with for most of my life, but I'm hopefully getting better.

And that is about learning how to let go of control.

We're always, all of us in our minds, trying to control every little

part of our day that we actually have no control over, but somehow we feel safe if we think

we're controlling things. But what we're actually doing is making ourselves crazy. So much of the day and so much of our energy is wasted on trying

to make other people do things we want them to do or for situations to be different than what they

are. And I have worked and will continue to work on trying to just accept what is, right?

And the only thing we can control is how we respond.

And that is intellectually very simple to understand.

But putting that into practice is a whole other set of problems.

T.J., how are you on not wasting your energy trying to control things that you can't control?

Oh, no.

I'm in full control of everything going on around me.

Full control.

Like on the subway today.

Total control.

Yeah.

I was in control of this podcast even and said you needed to start it.

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