Welcome to Let It Be Easy with Susie Moore.

Do you allow yourself to be surprised?

This is something that we don't talk about, but it's so important. We are missing out if we are not aware of this. What do I mean by being surprised? I'm not talking about a surprise birthday party or someone jumping out of the woods to give you a scare. No, we're talking about being surprised by breaking up with the filter with which we see the world.

So I see this most powerfully when it comes to people.

We have ideas in our heads as to who people are, how they behave, how they act, and whether or not

we like it. And when we don't like it, often we try and control it or we avoid it. And when we do

like it, we want to be around it. And there's nothing to control. So, what if you are going through life with this filter, with these illusions, with this fixed image

of how your mother is, of how your friend is, of how your co-worker is, of how your boss is?

And so you see the same patterns, you see the same

behavior, you see the same treatment day after day, not because that person is so predictable

and because they just always behave the same way without fail and not because they're

necessarily fixed in their ways, but because that's simply what we see,

what we choose to see based on our own projection. We can make a decision early on in a relationship

that someone's smart, someone's funny, someone is dumb, someone is annoying. I think about any words that we use to describe the people in our lives.

When we see the good, we see more of the good.

When we see something that makes us stressed or anxious,

we tend to just experience more and more of that and the presence of what we think makes us stressed and

anxious. I did this as an experiment once and it was really eye-opening. I have this relative that I

probably would have just deemed difficult in the nicest way. That would have been the word that I

use. This passage is, let's say difficult,

or say they're challenging. And then I realized the more I thought about this person or even spent

time with this person, I was doing it through this filter of, oh, I expect this behavior. Oh,

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