And now it's time to Ask the Shrink.

Hey, everybody. Welcome to this bonus episode of Ask the Shrink.

Today's question comes from Ingeborg.

Ingeborg says, as probably all of your clients, I too used to struggle a lot with shyness, but then I've had some progress thanks to Sean Cooper.

Sean is awesome. He recommended you and I think your tips are great, smiley face. Thank you, Ingeborg.

I know you have been brave enough to face fear an incredible amount of times to get where you are today, and that deserves to be admired.

Thank you for sharing your knowledge with others who struggle like me.

Anyway, there's one thing I don't quite get. In Sean's book, he mentions that he is against

affirmations, in addition to the reason why they don't work. But listening to your videos

about stories and why they work seems very logical to me.

So my question is this.

What is the difference between using affirmations and your techniques for changing stories?

That is a great question.

Affirmations, they're a hot topic, right?

You know, you look up affirmations, you'll find out what they are.

If you don't know what they are, they're self-affirming or inspiring or powerful statements that you repeat to yourself. So if you think I'm a loser and no one's

going to want to talk to me, obviously that's going to affect how you approach people and your energy

and all that. So the idea of an affirmation is you say something like,

I'm awesome and everyone loves talking to me and that by saying that, by repeating that in your mind,

you're going to believe that more and then have a better response. And that could be affirmations

for your social confidence, for your dating and relationship confidence, for work. You know,

everyone wants to buy my product and listen to me. Everyone wants to be my promotional partner.

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