Divorced, Naked, and Not Ashamed ft. Rachel Lindsay
Good Moms Bad Choices
The Black Effect and iHeartPodcasts
4.9 • 2.1K Ratings
🗓️ 6 August 2025
⏱️ 98 minutes
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Summary
This week, Good Moms are joined by attorney, media personality, author, and the first Black Bachelorette, Rachel Lindsay. From growing up in Texas with a federal judge for a dad to navigating heartbreak, law school, and the search for "love" on reality TV, they get into love, loss, legacy and what she wishes more reality stars knew.
You can expect to hear:
(09:00) Growing up in a strict, achievement-focused Black family—and how being a judge’s daughter shaped her mindset
(11:30) Going to law school, pledging Delta, and the moments that made her question everything she thought she knew
(12:30) Her first heartbreak, losing her virginity at 20, and why she believes purity culture is dangerous
(17:50) Her “athlete era,” chasing fun, and realizing what she didn’t want in a relationship
(20:30) How she ended up on The Bachelor, and the gut feeling that told her she had to do it
(23:50) The truth about being the first Black Bachelorette, respectability politics, and how she was chosen to be “palatable” for white audiences
(25:00) Her master plan to stay quiet during filming and speak out after the season aired
(27:00)The power of being seen: why Black women deserve the fairy tale, too ( and why she felt called to bring that to screen)
(28:00) Her advice to future reality TV stars: be strategic and own your narrative
(30:00) Why she’s not rushing into dating post-divorce and how she felt as a woman paying alimony to her EX-HUSBAND to maintain HIS lifestyle.
(31:00) Why she refuses to watch Love Island, and how most dating shows still miss the mark on diversity
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| 0:00.0 | This is an I-Heart podcast. |
| 0:05.0 | I always had to be so good no one could ignore me. |
| 0:08.0 | Carve my path with data and drive. |
| 0:10.0 | But some people only see who I am on paper. |
| 0:14.0 | The paper ceiling, the limitations from degree screens to stereotypes |
| 0:18.0 | that are holding back over 70 million stars. |
| 0:24.4 | Workers skilled through alternative routes rather than a bachelor's degree. |
| 0:26.9 | It's time for skills to speak for themselves. |
| 0:31.7 | Find resources for breaking through barriers at tetherpapersealing.org. |
| 0:34.1 | Brought to you by Opportunity at Work and the Ad Council. |
| 0:37.0 | Adventure should never come with a pause button. |
| 0:57.5 | Remember movie pass? All the movies you wanted for just nine bucks? I'm Bridget Todd, host of There Are No Girls on the Internet. And this season, I'm digging into the tech stories we weren't told. Starting with Stacey Spikes, the black founder of Movie Pass, who got pushed out of the company he built. Everybody's trying to knock you down and it's not going to work and no one's going to like it. |
| 0:59.3 | And then boom, it's everywhere. |
| 1:00.4 | And that was that moment. |
| 1:04.7 | Listen to there are no girls on the internet on the IHurt Radio app, Apple Podcast, or wherever you get your podcast. |
| 1:12.6 | Here, insightful, entertaining discussions on today's important health and wellness topics on the Health Discovered podcast from WebMD. |
| 1:17.3 | Through in-depth conversations with experts, Health Discovered covers everything from tips for healthier living to the latest on therapy and mental health. My goal is to really destigmatize |
| 1:23.4 | mental health treatment and looking at it from a whole health perspective. Physical health and mental health can be intertwined. |
| 1:30.7 | Listen to WebMD Health Discovered on the IHeartRadio app or wherever you get your podcasts. |
| 1:36.1 | Once upon a time, there was a good old traditional housewife. |
| 1:39.6 | She couldn't. She cleaned, cared for her children and the man of the house. |
| 1:43.4 | And of course, she didn't talk back. |
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