Different types of Perfectionism & perfectionism in motherhood w/ Dr. Menije

Mama Knows

Cloud10

Parenting, Kids & Family

5 • 1K Ratings

🗓️ 6 August 2024

⏱️ 38 minutes

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Summary

In this conversation, Nina and Dr. Menije discuss perfectionism and its impact on women, particularly in the context of motherhood. They explore different types of perfectionism and how it can manifest in various areas of life. Dr. Menije emphasizes the importance of self-compassion and embracing imperfection as antidotes to perfectionism. They also discuss how parents can help their children navigate perfectionism by teaching them to embrace mistakes and regulate their emotions. Overall, the conversation highlights the need to challenge societal expectations and redefine the concept of perfection. 00:00: Introduction and Personal Experiences with Perfectionism 03:11: Understanding the Different Types of Perfectionism 07:20: Perfectionism in Motherhood: Fear of Not Being Good Enough 10:36: The Role of Comparison and Social Media in Perfectionism 13:21: Overcoming Perfectionism: Self-Compassion and Embracing Imperfection 19:28: Helping Children Navigate Perfectionism: Embracing Mistakes and Regulating Emotions 25:25: Addressing Our Own Perfectionism as Parents More About Dr. Menije Dr. Menije is a licensed psychologist in private practice in Los Angeles, CA and a leading expert on overcoming perfectionism and building an authentic life. She knows her clients can bust out of their comfort zones, take ownership of their dreams, and create a new sense of self. As the founder of Perfectionism University, an online platform for self-help courses on breaking up with perfectionism, her goal is to create a community where we can all unlearn Perfectionism and start our journey of embracing imperfections and owning our enoughness. Disney Jr.’s Ariel is an animated musical series for preschoolers inspired by the beloved story of “The Little Mermaid.” It follows 8-year-old mermaid princess Ariel as she and her friends embark on fun-filled, action-packed underwater adventures throughout their Caribbean-inspired fairytale kingdom of Atlantica and beyond. The series features fan-favorite characters, including King Triton, Ursula, Sebastian, and Flounder, as well as exciting new additions like Ariel’s two best friends, mer-children Lucia and Fernie, and lots of other adorable sea creatures. The series debuts Thursday, June 27 on Disney Jr. and next day, Friday, June 28 on Disney+. Invest in your whole family’s health with Seed. Go to Seed.com/MAMAKNOWS and use code 25MAMAKNOWS to get 25% off your first month of DS-01® Daily Synbiotic or PDS-08® Pediatric Daily Synbiotic. For a limited time, kids eat FREE! Go to HelloFresh.com/mamakids to unlock this exclusive offer. One free kids’ meal per box for two months while subscription is active. That’s FREE kids’ meals just by going to HelloFresh dot com slash mamakids. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0	One of my girlfriends and I were just talking about perfectionism and she was like I'm a through and
0:11.8	through classic perfectionist like I'm very timely
0:15.7	I'm organized I have a calendar I have a plan I have to be perfect at work things have to be
0:21.8	done perfectly or I beat myself up.
0:24.6	So that's when I think of perfectionist, right?
0:27.4	So I really didn't think that I fell into that space because I'm not like that, but I am a perfectionist.
0:36.6	I found that out today and I'm actually curious
0:39.2	if you will find the same out about yourself after listening to this episode. I'm talking to
0:45.1	Dr. Manizia today who's a perfectionist specialist expert. She literally
0:50.5	helps people overcome perfectionism and I'm excited for this
0:55.2	episode because I found out a lot about myself that I didn't know so let's dive in. Hi Dr. Minnese. I'm so excited to have you here today to talk about perfectionism. I feel like that's such an Icky thing to talk about because it brings up all these traumas I think for me anyways on why I am this way and then it brings me to believe like oh I need to change who I am and how do I change who I am and I think
1:25.3	perfectionism is really common in women I'm just guessing I would love to hear from you on that
1:30.8	but before we dive into perfectionism I would love to hear a little bit about you
1:34.8	and how you got into this work. Well thank you so much for having me here. First of all and I am so
1:39.6	excited to be talking about this topic because it takes one to treat one and I have my own personal
1:45.8	story with perfectionism and it was something I put the pieces together I always shared a story of my late 20s which is about
1:56.4	like 16 18 years ago I read Brana Brown's book, Gifts of Imperfection and when I reading that book, I had my aha moment where I realized behind my anxiety and my
2:08.0	never-ending guilt that I'm not doing enough or did I upset somebody was stemming from or drive by my perfectionism.
2:16.9	And what happened fast forward I graduated from school and I'm starting to do therapy and I realize so many people come to therapy to talk about anxiety and sleep issues, relationship issues, couples issues, parenting issues and what you start to realize is behind all of these struggles
2:36.7	also linked to perfectionism and that's where this became such a big passion of
2:41.9	mind because I see so many of us.
2:44.0	Perfection is not a diagnostic criteria.
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