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Try and 1-11 Richard. Welcome to the program. Hi, hi, Dr. Laura. Hi Richard. What can I do for you? Well, you started the program with the discussion about betrayal and something happened to me 23 years ago at work that I have obviously.

Carried around all this time and I thought I had been horribly betrayed, but the last couple years that I think about this, I'm not sure I was betrayed.

I'm wondering if the other person actually was doing the right thing and I was just on in the wrong.

Tell me what happened. So what happened is this was a coworker and we both worked for the same boss in different sites.

And so on the telephone one day after, especially bad meeting and some things have happened, I was venting to her about this boss of ours.

And I'm unknown to me the whole time we were talking. She was writing everything I said down work for work.

And a couple times room conversation she did. I'm sorry. So you were talking to her on the phone so you couldn't see what you was doing.

I had no idea she was writing literally work for her as much as she could as I was venting. And a couple times during the call she did stop and say, well, you know, that's not in the experience. I'm surprised to hear that. No, no, that's not what I'm seeing.

But anyway, you know, the phone call ended and I felt temporarily better for having invented all of these things. And then the next day I was in boss's office and she's holding the notes.

This coworker had taken and going through each one of them and of course I'm getting, you know, held over the carpet.

And at the time, I mean, I just felt so betrayed that my coworker would do that.

Tell me what the boss, no, no, no, no, no, tell me what the boss was saying about your list. Tell me how that part went.

Oh, that.

She asked for a clarification. What did you mean when you said that? What were you talking about when you said I did this? You know, so she was getting clarification.

By the end of the discussion, my boss realized that some of those things may be true, but a lot of them were my own perception and I was probably being very hypersensitive and taking things personally that I shouldn't have been and.

Or you had all punished in any way by the boss for this whole circumstance. Well, obviously it was never the same after that with the boss and I and with my relationship with the company.

And so I didn't lose my job, but I ended up leaving probably within six months for a different place just because it was so.

You have left because you were so unhappy with the things that you were complaining about that in the fact that it was just the relationship with the boss and with the other man.

Forget the relationship.

No, forget the relationships, please.

Okay.

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