The following talk was given at the Insight Meditation Center in Redwood City, California.

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Okay, that's good to say with you.

So all that about non-ownership was not like me side-eye and Sandra with the rental car break-in

or something like that.

Like, no, that was, I mean, not technically your car. And I'm sorry, but speaking in a different register here.

Anywhisers, it's good to be with you. And so today, moving through the Paramees, only five days in the week, 10 days, 10 Paramees,

but doing well we can.

And I talk about love often and not infrequently get some real pushback.

And not from the haters, but from sincere people for whom the word love has weird associations.

And so let me just declare the top of the hour here that I am allergic to saccharine, hallmark card love. I like my love adjacent to death,

personally. At Christmas time, the in-laws watched a lifetime Christmas movie and played Christmas

movie Bingo, which is the first time I had partaken in this particular pastime. But people get different like bingo cards and

you sit around watching the TV, watch like a lifetime, you know, movie, a Christmas movie with

your bingo card and a pen and everyone has different squares, right?

And the squares include, and these movies are, they're, it's so predictable that you can have

bingo squares that routinely nail what happens in these movies, right?

And the squares include things like romantic lead has sworn off love for good, implied that someone is actually an angel or Santa.

City girl learns to love small town, hot cocoa.

These are the kind of squares.

And I sit there like a kind of grizzled old curmudgeon, you know, and I just like rejoice in this profoundly cynical exercise.

And it makes like a very, very bad movie incredibly exciting to watch,

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