Today is a super duper special episode. I am with Kathy K of Strictly Anonymous. Hi, Kathy.

Hi. This episode is super exciting because can I tell them about the dream I had that inspired

it on my end? I don't think this is your reason for singing. Oh my God, hilarious. Sure. I had a dream

that Kathy and I were doing a Q&A episode, but since she's No Face in our episode, she was like an emoji.

She was, I think, a shark, a dragon, and I think you were a unicorn.

If anyone doesn't know what I'm talking about, it's in iPhones.

You can make yourself talk like an animated creature.

And so we were doing an episode, and you were a shark and a dragon and a unicorn. I could see why of all those things in your brain. Yep. Because I'm the elusive unicorn because I'm anonymous. And sometimes I could be a bitch. So I'm a shark and, you know, and a dragon. Very powerful. You know what I'm saying? So I feel like the texture between us, like we talk all the time. We're good friends and also like love talking about sex. So I thought it would be funny for us to answer our listener questions together back and forth. For sure. Okay, this is actually two questions on the same topic though. So I'm going to just read them back to back. And then after the second one, I want to hear your thoughts. So this is about dating. I got a question that says, newly single male, interested in meeting a woman open to dating and sex clubs, help. That's from C. And then same theme, but slightly different. I'm 36, a newly single after a 12-year relationship where we barely had sex. And I didn't have much experience even before then. I feel so inexperienced and anxious now. How do I start exploring without feeling like everyone knows more than me? Oh my God. Those are two ends of the spectrum. Is one a woman and one a man? Because I feel like we could put them together and they can help each other out. I know, right? The first one is definitely a dude. The second one, it is unclear. It's a gender neutral name. So I don't know. So one person has zero, like one person wants to like, you know, have an open relationship and have fun outside of the box with a partner. And the other person is nervous that they don't have enough experience. I mean, the first person didn't give very much detail, just newly single male. They're both newly single.

So that's the common thread.

Interested in meeting a woman open to dating and sex clubs help.

I mean, that's pretty broad. I think they've got to get more specific there. No, that's easy. No, no, no. It's not a broad one. It's just the, you know what his question is? To me, his question is like, how does he meet somebody that will enter into the lifestyle?

Like, right?

Like, this is his first time being single.

This time around, you know, he wants to meet a woman that's going to go to swingers clubs with him. And like, listen, you're not going to go on Match.com or eHarmony or even Raya if you have that in mind. But there are certainly apps out there that you could go on that are specifically geared to that.

And I think the smartest thing to do is like put that in your effin bio, weed out the nonsense and all the girls that are not going to be interested.

And, you know, you're going to be left with the ones that are.

The other option I would say, this is the other easy answer, is go to a sex club solo. Now, a lot of times single guys are like a big fat no-no, but a lot of times most places are open to them and they have certain different nights that single guys are allowed. And if you go to a swingers club alone, I know many women that do it, you could do it. I know plenty of guys that do it go alone and you know there's there's going to be some single women there too and so you're

going to be fishing out of a pond full of people that are into what you're into. Because you're already there. Yeah. Absolutely. That's my two things to do. And I would say also if this person is in a locale where there are like fet life meetups, oftentimes getting to know

people outside of a sexy space before going into a sexy space is good. And also for me with

single people at sex parties, it's like have something to offer, you know, go there being

of service rather than like having a need to fill because I feel like it gets a little

succubis like. And if that's the kink that someone's into, great. But if someone is just trying to be a regular person and there's a dude, they're being like, Can I touch you? I'm usually like, go visit me at the ranch. You know? No, but this guy sounds like he's looking for a relationship. So I don't think he's going to, he didn't say like, where do I meet girls that want to have an orgy and gang bang the first time I meet them. He's looking for a partner. So I think he's not going to be dumb and go into there and, you know, try and, you know, bang a girl when he first started talking to him. But like to me, that's a place where you could become friends and,

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