I amla. I've been very open about the fact that I was not always good and making my

relationships work. I have been divorced three times twice from the same person. In other words, I have seen a lot and

failed a lot in my relationships. So I am here to share with you what I learned along the way because I did take copious notes.

Welcome to the R-Spot, a production of Shandaland Audio in partnership with I-Heart Radio.

Welcome, welcome, welcome to the R spot.

If you were with us last week, you heard me and my guest Tony Porter,

an author, a activist, an educator who works toward eliminating racial and gender inequality.

Tony is the author of breaking out of the man box.

He's talking about reimagining manhood

and eliminating the impact of the collective socialization of men that have put them on what he calls remote

control manhood.

So we are going to continue that conversation today because it is just too good to cut out anything

I want you to hear it all.

And here we go.

I want to ask you some questions that I get all of the time. I get all of the time from women and so that we can hear it from you so that we have a better way of dealing with the men in our lives and B a better way of

raising our sons that that's my concern because we're raising future husbands, future fathers.

Okay, here's a question that I get all of the time.

He doesn't communicate.

What can I do to help him communicate?

He doesn't communicate.

So we understand the collective socialization.

We understand the man's fear of being vulnerable or looking weak.

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