Welcome to Narcissist Apocalypse, everyone.

I am Brandon Chadwick, and today we will be doing a debrief on Teagan's story.

We will be doing key takeaways and themes in the fear, obligation, guilt, and shame for this story.

But for those of you who have not listened to this episode yet, here is a quick summary

of the story.

So Tegan's story starts in a family where her hurt was often minimized or explained

away.

She grew up with verbal abuse, body shame, and the message that her pain mattered less than

other people's comfort, reactions, or intentions over time that made her feel unworthy of love

and taught her to accept pain from people who were supposed to care about her.

And she comes from this immigrant family with a specific set of beliefs, and she also

has a brother that comes into her life later on in life, so she doesn't meet him until she is

about five years old, and he is verbally abusive and physically abusive as well, and her family

is telling her to just deal with these things.

And then her grandmother actually starts adding to the verbal abuse as well.

And there's a lot of shame that goes on inside this family.

So when Tegan does meet her ex, the beginning here really feels like a huge relief.

It came with a lot of attention, shared interests, big promises of a future, made her feel seen,

made her feel chosen.

So this was huge.

But over time here, this relationship starts to become really unsafe.

This person's drinking in drug use escalated and arguments started to become longer.

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