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Death, Sex & Money - I Was Your Father, Until I Wasn't

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4.2 • 2K Ratings

🗓️ 24 February 2021

⏱️ 30 minutes

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Summary

A listener named Tony wrote to us about his deep love for his daughter, and what it was like to discover that he wasn't her biological father.

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0:00.0

Hey, it's Anna. Last week, we shared some of your one-night stand stories, mostly positive reflections on fleeting, no strings-attached encounters. But it also got us thinking about a story we shared a few years back, about a one-night stand that had deep, lasting, and painful consequences. It's also a really beautiful story.

0:22.4

So we're sharing that with you again this week.

0:24.6

Stick around for the end to hear an update.

0:28.2

Do you think you were a father?

0:30.3

Yeah.

0:31.2

Is it past tense?

0:33.0

Yeah, probably.

0:34.7

I wouldn't consider myself a father now.

0:40.2

This is death, sex, and money.

0:43.5

Please, they're dead. It's a little late to be neurotic.

0:45.7

The show from WNYC about the things we think about a lot.

0:49.0

Are you guys like boyfriend, girlfriend?

0:51.1

And need to talk about more.

0:53.0

I've always admired men like your father.

0:55.3

Wealthy, but not stuffy. I'm in a sale. Six years ago, when Tony was in his mid-20s, he was working as a

1:04.8

bartender and a photographer in a Western college town. One night after work, and after a few

1:10.7

drinks, he hooked up with a woman he dated back in high school.

1:14.3

It was just pretty random. The whole thing just kind of happened really fast and then was over.

1:19.4

Then, a few weeks later, she told him she was pregnant.

1:23.0

There was a really, really, really long silence after she told me, because I was pretty careful with what I

1:32.3

wanted to say, or was planning to say, I needed to, like, think about it for, for sure. And I told her

1:40.2

that it was her choice, everything. And if she chose to keep it, then I would be a good

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