my job is up for grabs, my marriage is up for grabs.

I mean, if I told my mom and my dad where I was, the phone would simply go dead.

This is death, sex, and money.

The show from WNYC about the things we think about a lot and need to talk about more.

I'm Anna Sails.

In our longest relationships, there are ebbs and flows of closeness, sometimes intentional, sometimes not,

depending on what's going on in your life or whether it's easy to be together.

And then sometimes, no matter how entangled you are, there's a rupture, a break.

You become estranged from the people you come from or from the communities that once felt like home.

I have been estranged from my family since I was 16.

I moved out and I just never saw them again.

I'm in a 13-year-old journey of trying to estrange myself and my sister from our mom. And I haven't spoken

to them for the last 129 days. I don't even know that I'd recognize him on the street if I saw him

or recognized his voice. When we asked you our listeners earlier this year about your

experiences with estrangement.

Hundreds of you shared stories.

You told us about the moment you knew you were done.

He told me he would not come to my wedding.

She reminded me often that I wasn't wanted.

She wanted to have an abortion.

He will just message you out of nowhere tearing you down, letting you know what a loser he thinks you are.

I was diagnosed with cancer. I just remember, like, I called him and I said, you know, I have something I really need to talk to you about.

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