Prudence is joined this week by Jenée Desmond-Harris, an op-ed editor at the New York Times. One of the resolutions she's been working on all year is to become someone who inspires people say "you don't suffer fools". Together they tackle letters about what actions you can take when your abusive ex-spouse to-be threatens your safety, should you tell your brother who never sides with you the reasons why you’re cutting off contact, what to do when you and your boyfriend want to go out, but never seem to leave the couch, how to tell your family you want to break from the church values they still adhere to, how to maintain professionalism while dealing with misogynistic customers, what to do when your husband’s hobby of collecting rare animals has made your home life intolerable. Also, a voicemail from a listener who is wondering how to handle a frequent drunk calling cousin who always wants to process their painful childhood. Slate Plus members will hear Prudie and Jenée discuss a letter writer who is wondering how to handle a condescending boss who appropriates your ideas as their own. Not yet a member? Sign up at Slate.com/PrudiePod. Email: [email protected] Production by Phil Surkis Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices