Welcome to Dear Prudence. I'm your Prudence, Janay Desmond Harris. Today, we'll be

discussing letters about what to do when a friend is obsessed with misogynistic love

and relationship podcasts. When your husband just can't figure out birthday gifts, and

when you're wondering, does therapy just not work for me? Here to help me out today is

Dr. Orina Grelnick. She's a clinical psychologist and psychoanalyst practicing in New York City.

She's also the host of Showtime's Couples Therapy, an amazing documentary series following

couples as they seek her help with their relationships. I promise I'm not going to spend the

whole introduction, bonding over her and talking about how excited I am because I always

fast forward through that part of podcasts. It's just awkward to listen to, but suffice it

to say, I'm really excited and if you watch the show, you get it. If you don't, you should

watch the show. Welcome, Orina. Thank you for being here. Thank you. Thank you, Janay. I'm

very happy to be here. It's great that you're here because every advice columnist does this balance

of giving our opinion and then always mentioning, but also think about therapy, but also you and your

husband should go to therapy, but also I hope you're in therapy. And so you're sort of like the

therapist in our imagination who they can go to to really solve underlying problems and

you're here with us today. So I can't wait to hear your take on these serious and unserious

letters that we deal with. So before we get started, I did want to ask you just for one piece of

unsolicited advice that you'd love to give off the top of your head. It might sound a little like

old mommy talking, but keep the state of the world in mind and hold your actual relationship

with tenderness, considering what's going on in the world. Great advice. You have to think about

the bigger picture, right? Yeah. Imagine you're also thinking about all the different forces that

are affecting all of us. Right. They're very powerful forces that could very easily pull us

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