Welcome to Dear Prudence.

I'm your prudence, Janay Desmit Harris.

Today we'll be talking about whether conflicting ideas about children should end a relationship

between two 20-somethings, what to do when a friend is obsessed with her husband's

band, and if it's acceptable to weave your partner behind a vacation without them,

if they're running late and miss the flight.

What I'm going to help me out is my guest Ashley C. Ford.

She's a writer, podcast, or an educator whose author of the best-selling memoir, Somebody's

Daughter.

I could say New York Times best-selling memoir because, you know, people will just say best-selling

when it's like on any list, it's a New York Times best-selling memoir.

And currently hosts Into the Mix, a podcast about joy and justice.

I would add to she's a really great thinker and speaker.

This is an incredibly wise woman who you really need to listen to.

Welcome to the show, Ashley.

Thanks for being here.

Today, thank you so much for having me.

This is really exciting.

I am a frequent reader of Dear Prudy, and I feel honored to be here today.

I can't wait to hear what you think about these letters, but first off, give me your one

piece of unsolicited advice.

My one piece of unsolicited advice is to be on your own side more than anybody else.

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