Welcome to Dear Prudence, I'm your Prudence,

Janay Desmond Harris.

Today we'll be discussing what to do when you discover your birthday gift and hate it, how to avoid losing

respect for a partner who procrastinate, and whether it's a problem to spend five minutes

to five hours a day in intense romantic daydreams.

Here to help me out are Liz Neely and Ed Young.

Liz is a marine biologist by training,

and she's the founder of Liminal Creations, a strategy and consulting firm

focus on science communications. Ed is a science journalist who you may know from his reporting

on the COVID-19 pandemic.

He's a Pulitzer winner, and he's the author

of two New York Times bestsellers, an immense world,

and I contain multitudes.

They're also my first married couple guests on the podcast. I was chatting with them before and telling them that just based on my Instagram research I also think they're a really good couple.

So they're kind of going to be my

relationship experts today if that's okay anyway welcome to the show Ed and Liz

thank you. Hello thanks so much for having us thank you for coming on and as always before we get started, I want to ask each of you for one piece of unsolicited advice about anything in the world.

Ed, why don't you go first?

Okay, so I think my piece of unsolicited advice

is ironically solicit advice.

I've often found that when people are told problems like one of the one were your friends is like complaining about something going wrong

There's this very strong urge to immediately leap in with advice and like things to do and I found that a much better approach is to just

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