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Welcome to Dear Prudence. I'm your guest Prudence, Kristen Mineser. I host a couple of other podcasts,

including Buy the Book and How to Be Fine. Be sure to check them out if you love self-help books,

hate self-help books, or want advice on how to be okay-ish rather than perfect. Today, we are

answering questions from a boyfriend who has been financially supporting

his girlfriend, but can't afford to anymore.

A spouse whose younger partner is mocking part of their aging and a friend struggling to support

someone in their life going through something so similar that it's

painful. Here to help me out today is June Thomas. June is a longtime Slatster. You may have heard

her recently on Outward or Working, which just wrapped up. She's also the author of the fantastic

book, A Place of Our Own, Six Spaces that Have Shaped Queer Women's Culture.

It is such a good book. Everybody, please check it out.

June Thomas, welcome to the show. It's so great to be back on the mic with you.

Oh, thank you for having me and absolute same. I always love to chat with you, Kristen.

It's always a joy. Now, before we get started, June, we'd like to ask you a

question that we ask all of our guests. What is one piece of unsolicited advice that you would give to the

world unprompted? This is very much from the schoolyard, but you know what? It holds true. Don't yuck people's yum. Like if,

if what people enjoy, if what people do with their lives does not impact you, is not causing

any harm, just let it go. You do not need to, you know, you do not need to state your opinion

on everything. And if somebody has a thing in their life that brings them to, you know, you do not need to state your opinion on everything. And if somebody has a thing

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