Welcome to Dear Prudence.

I'm your prudence, Jenae Desmitaris.

Today we'll be responding to letters about when to tell your child you've had an abortion,

whether it's okay to ghost friends who don't respect your reproductive choices, and how

to deal with a spouse who is an art monster, also known as a slob.

Here to help me out is my guest Jessica Valenti.

She's been writing about women and politics for nearly 20 years.

She founded one of the first feminist blogs, has published seven books, and currently writes

the abortion everyday newsletter, where she publishes non-stop updates on what's happening

with abortion rights.

Welcome to the show Jessica.

Thank you for having me.

So before we get started, I want to give you the floor to give everyone one piece of unsolicited

advice.

This was a really hard prompt for me.

This was really difficult because I feel like I have way too much unsolicited advice.

I thought that.

I was like, this will be easy.

You just seem like you would have a lot.

But nobody that makes it more difficult because then it's like, okay, I really have to distill

down.

And so I tried to fit a couple of different things into one piece of advice, which is I always

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