Welcome to Dear Prudence, I'm your Prudence,

Janay Desmond Harris.

Today we'll be discussing how to tell a friend they're a horrible boss.

Whether a husband who won't open the bathroom shades to give the plants a little light is a problem.

And what to do when your friends setting you up on dates makes you feel like you might be a bigot.

Helping me out today is Michael Hoggs, a journalist who hosts the podcast,

if books could kill in maintenance phase.

He writes about the media moral panics and the

gas lighting of America in his newsletter confirmed my choices. Welcome to the show

Michael. I am having like an existential crisis since you sent me questions yesterday.

Well I thought it was so funny that you wrote back and said these questions are so hard.

I don't know how you do this.

It's really difficult.

Well I just think of you as someone because I listen to your other

podcast and I feel like you always have just encyclopedic knowledge of almost every topic

and really strong opinions so I'm ready for you to say.

That's because I do like three weeks of research

before my own podcast.

But for this, I'm like, man.

Like eight pages of notes for each answer heavily research I'm excited.

All I have in in in real life my strategy for giving people advice is to just like ask

them questions because like typically people

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