Dear Em & Jen: Listener Advice
ShrinkChicks
Jennifer Chaiken, LMFT and Emmalee Bierly, LMFT
4.9 • 755 Ratings
🗓️ 11 December 2023
⏱️ 46 minutes
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Summary
On this week's episode of ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen are dedicating the full episode to answering multiple Dear Em & Jen questions! The first question is from a listener who is extremely frustrated with her current relationship dynamic. Her partner is not willing to do the work and she feels lost on how to reach him after trying for so long. They discuss defensiveness, the pursuer-withdrawer dynamic, and how our inner child's survival tactics can show up in our present relationships. Next, Emmalee and Jen answer a question about avoidant-attachment style. The listener is almost 30 and has never been in a relationship and wants to unpack why she fears closeness. She has incredible insight and awareness, so Em and Jen give her some action steps to take with her. Lastly, they tackle a question from a listener who doesn't like being in public with their partner. The listener is drained by their partner's social anxiety and isn't sure if this is a dealbreaker. They want to know what Em and Jen would do in their shoes and Em and Jen deliver just that! Tune in for some in-depth answers that can be applied to MANY different situations! PS: Fast forward to around 7:30 into their convo to skip the intro and get straight to today’s content.
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| 0:00.0 | So let me be honest for a second. |
| 0:02.0 | Braves and underwear have always been a pain point for me. |
| 0:05.3 | You know the drill. |
| 0:06.3 | Strap sticking in, bands that never sit quite right, |
| 0:09.8 | underwear that either rolls or rides up. |
| 0:12.4 | I'd get so frustrated shopping for bras and underwear that I kind of gave up. |
| 0:17.2 | I'd add things to my cart online, stare at them, and then just never check out. |
| 0:21.6 | Because in the back of my mind, I figured it'll just be another letdown. |
| 0:25.8 | But recently, I finally took the plunge with skims, and I cannot believe I waited this long. |
| 0:30.0 | I started with a fits everybody collection, and let me tell you, it is like, oh, so this is what it's supposed to feel like. |
| 0:37.1 | The fabric is unreal. Silky, soft, stretching all the right ways, and it somehow manages to feel light but still supportive. |
| 0:45.1 | My absolute favorite piece, the triangle bra. |
| 0:47.9 | I am not exaggerating when I say it is the most comfortable bra I have ever owned. |
| 0:53.3 | Usually the second I walk in the door, |
| 0:55.0 | I cannot wait to take my bra off, but with this one, half the time I forget I'm even wearing it. |
| 0:59.7 | It's supportive without squeezing and it just feels good on my body. And now I'm kind of obsessed. I |
| 1:05.8 | keep looking at the rest of the skim site, making mental wishless and a set of abandoning my cart |
| 1:10.3 | like I used to, |
| 1:11.5 | I'm actually excited to click checkout. It feels like I finally found intemates that actually work |
| 1:16.0 | for me. Pieces I don't have to think about all day because they just feel good. I get it now. |
| 1:21.3 | This is why people rave about skims and why I'm officially hooked. Shop skims fit. Everybody's |
| 1:26.9 | collection at skims.com. |
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