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Asaam alaak.

Asa la laikom rahat

Allahiabarakat.

Welcome to this episode of dealing with difficulty.

It's not easy to deal with people who may not be your family members,

but as we grow older and we get married or our children get married, we have family members who come in, who are new members to the family.

We welcome them and even prior to welcoming them we were showing their family the good side of our family in order for them to accept the proposal or to let this marriage happen.

And that good side unfortunately after the marriage is forgotten because the term in-laws comes in many cultures with a negative stigma

which is unfair. These are good people but we've come in with a preconceived

idea that these people don't like me.

They are there to destroy me maybe or they are there to make my life difficult and that's

not the case.

So today we want to talk of some of the difficulties and how to deal with them.

Number one, let's lower our expectations of one another.

When there is something to be done, let's try and do it ourselves.

Try not to change things too suddenly within the home just because a daughter-in-law came in or a little in-law came in, be it a son-in-law, or whoever it may be.

What we need to realize is, welcome these people, welcome whoever they are, talk to them, understand that you know this is the way it's going to be.

Many people don't want to live with an extended family primarily because expectation is too high.

That's the main reason that people don't want to live with extended family.

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