Hi, everyone, it's Nora McInerney. Welcome back to you. Thanks for asking. This is a call-in show about what matters to you. And I had the idea for this episode when I was at a funeral, which is one of the most Catholic things I could say. I born and raised, Irish Catholic baby,

huge family. Each of my parents had eight surviving siblings. Important to note, both of my

grandmas gave birth 10 times. That's so many times to have a baby come out of your body. And that

means I have so many aunts and uncles and so many

cousins, it would truly be impossible for me to name all of them. But I can say confidently,

several of them are named John and several of them are named Paul. And if I'm ever in doubt,

when I see a man who says he's my cousin, I say, hey, Paul John.

And I could be right most of the time. So I'm at a, I'm at a funeral. I met a funeral back in

Minnesota. This is the funeral where, if you listened months ago, the priest was so young and so

handsome. And then later, after having said that on the podcast,

somebody reached out and they said, not only is he young and handsome, but I dated him in high

school. And then somebody else reached out and said, not only is a young and handsome, but he's

also like a great guy and he really, like, got my friend through a miscarriage and so he's really enough about the hot

priest enough about the hot priest we're in the basement after the funeral we're having the the funeral

lunch there it was it was actually so good i've had a lot of funeral lunches in my time i went to

funerals recreationally as a kid my My mom, good Catholic, would say,

oh my God, my friend's mailman's brother dead. I just saw the notice. I just saw the obituary. We got to go to this funeral and I would like be a plus one for a funeral. So I know my way around a funeral. I know my way around a funeral lunch. They had gluten-free options. They had like really good fresh fruit. Great chicken

salad. I live for a potato salad, a chicken salad, any kind of salad that has no lettuce in it I am

interested in. So I'm there. A woman comes up to me. She introduces herself. I've already

forgotten her name and I'm sorry, but she says that the two of us are not related, but she's related to the decedent. My aunt who died, who was married to my uncle, my biological uncle. She says she's related to her. And she remembers meeting my dad or seeing my dad right when he got back from Vietnam. My dad's dad. My dad died in

2014. She says, I remember seeing your dad right when he got back from Vietnam. We were having

like an extended, you know, like big sort of like family reunion down by Minnehaha Falls in

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