Day 3 | How THIS CIA TACTIC Made My Marriage LAST!
EverydaySpy Podcast
Andrew Bustamante
4.7 • 640 Ratings
🗓️ 18 March 2025
⏱️ 12 minutes
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Nobody ever talks about how much marriage sucks. You hear all the great things about being married your whole life, and then you get a cold dose of reality on your own. And even though it gets harder, it also gets better. The parallels between marriage and a CIA operation are pretty powerful, when you see them for what they are.
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| 0:00.0 | If there's one thing I wish somebody would have told me earlier, it's how much marriage sucks. |
| 0:09.7 | Because marriage really does suck. It's hard. It's hard. It's shockingly lonely. It's frustrating. It's exhausting. exhausting it's difficult it's never the same from day |
| 0:24.9 | to day marriage is challenging it's like the marathon that somehow keeps going uphill at least that's |
| 0:33.0 | been my experience and frankly speaking that's been the experience of most of the people I've met and the |
| 0:38.1 | people I've met who bailed out of their first marriage and moved on with their life only to then |
| 0:43.8 | get married a second time oftentimes joke that they didn't learn their lesson the first time around |
| 0:49.6 | and that even the second time around marriage sucks now that's's not me being, you know, just negative about |
| 0:56.4 | marriage. Marriage has lots of good things too. But what I was never told was how many bad things |
| 1:02.3 | there are. I was always told about the good things. I was always told that it's powerful to have |
| 1:06.7 | someone who loves you and supports you and encourages you and somebody who's there for you |
| 1:11.0 | when you're sick and somebody who's there for you when you need a hug or when you need a shoulder |
| 1:16.0 | to cry on. All those things are true and all those things were communicated to me. It was all the |
| 1:21.1 | bad things that were never communicated to me. So my wife and I, we have been married for 14 years. We'll be celebrating 15 years this year in |
| 1:30.4 | 2025. And it's been challenging. And you know, what's interesting is that marriage seems to grow through |
| 1:36.8 | phases. When you first get married, it's kind of like celebrating your engagement. It's, it's like |
| 1:43.7 | you pat yourself on the back, like you did |
| 1:45.2 | something challenging. Oh, we did it. We spent a few years dating and then we spent a year or more |
| 1:51.0 | engaged. And now we got married. We did it. We're so good at this thing called commitment. And you |
| 1:59.4 | celebrate that for a little while. And then you start to find your |
| 2:02.0 | way into being comfortable because nobody can really break up easily once you sign a marriage |
| 2:08.5 | certificate. You can still go your separate ways, but it becomes administratively difficult, |
| 2:13.4 | whereas it's very easy to administer a breakup pre-engagement and pre-marriage. And then after that |
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