On this episode of Conversations with Tom, author Dave Rubin and Tom Bilyeu discuss the nature of identity and freedom, and talk about how we might do better as parents, citizens and individuals. SHOW NOTES: Dave talks about trying to launch a book during a quarantine [0:30] Tom discusses his conflicting feelings about writing a book [3:26] Dave describes his process for getting his book written [4:47] Tom explains how he became the “mindset guy” [8:02] Dave discusses the difficulties facing entrepreneurs and small business owners [9:54] Dave talks about how his interest in politics developed [13:08] Dave describes his experience of being “in the closet” [19:53] The terrible results of refusing to let people be who they are [24:49] Dave explains how he deals with surrogate parenting [30:26] Dave details the criteria he and his partner use to choose surrogates [35:04] What is the definition of a decent parent? What constitutes good parenting? [38:35] Dave and Tom discuss helicopter parenting and how technology has changed kids [41:45] Tom talks about why he would be much too overprotective as a parent [46:05] Your kids will rebel against you no matter what, so there’s no perfect parenting method [49:38] Dave celebrates the freedom that has transformed people who live in the US [51:26] Dave and Tom discuss the difference between equal opportunity and equal outcomes [57:16] Tom talks about the influence on luck in life, and how the education system works [1:06:13] Dave strongly advocates for stable families [1:09:23] Tom talks about his experience working with people who grew up in South Central LA [1:12:01] You can’t solve everyone’s problems, but they still might haunt you [1:16:19] Dave advocates helping out small businesses and mom and pop stores [1:19:53] What is the government really good at? [1:25:01] Dave claims that the individual is the only thing that matters [1:27:47] Tom and Dave discuss Jordan Peterson [1:30:50] Tom strongly advocates deep personal responsibility [1:39:49] FOLLOW DAVE: WEBSITE: daverubin.com INSTAGRAM: https://bit.ly/34X3w5i FACEBOOK: https://bit.ly/2Vupp8V TWITTER: https://bit.ly/2KqyitT What's up, everybody? It's Tom Bilyeu here: If you want my help... STARTING a business: join me here at ZERO TO FOUNDER SCALING a business: see if you qualify here.  Get my battle-tested strategies and insights delivered weekly to your inbox: sign up here. If you're serious about leveling up your life, I urge you to check out my new podcast, Tom Bilyeu’s Mindset Playbook —a goldmine of my most impactful episodes on mindset, business, and health. Trust me, your future self will thank you. Join me live on my Twitch stream. I'm live daily from 6:30 to 8:30 am PT at www.twitch.tv/tombilyeu LISTEN TO IMPACT THEORY AD FREE + BONUS EPISODES on APPLE PODCASTS: apple.co/impacttheory FOLLOW TOM: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tombilyeu/ Tik Tok: https://www.tiktok.com/@tombilyeu?lang=en Twitter: https://twitter.com/tombilyeu YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@TomBilyeu Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices