Dating with Borderline Personality Disorder (w/ Makhyli)
Why Won't You Date Me? with Nicole Byer
Headgum & Nicole Byer
4.9 • 16K Ratings
🗓️ 17 April 2026
⏱️ 67 minutes
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Summary
Artist and actress Makhyli (Boys World) joins Nicole to chat about her experience dating while in a pop girl group. Makhyli shares how she literally created a "Build-A-Boy" slideshow presentation to manifest her current boyfriend - and it actually worked! The girls swap their worst car-date horror stories, from a guy so cheap he forced Makhyli to share a single McDonald's french fry, to a man who casually had rotting food in his backseat. Makhyli opens up about navigating relationship paranoia with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD), and the two discuss tips they've picked up for dating with ADHD. Plus they chat about their love for the latest season of Love on the Spectrum.
Makhyli's new single, I Need You (Cat and Mouse) is out now!
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| 0:00.0 | Want to watch this episode? Catch the full video on YouTube. Just hit the link in the episode description. |
| 0:07.0 | This is a headgum podcast. With BPD, a lot of times, your issues come out more when you're in a relationship because a lot of it is triggered by abandonment. |
| 0:19.0 | So now you have a partner and you're automatically thinking they're leaving. They're out the door, they're texting three other women right now, you know. And so my brain will literally make up scenarios in the moment when I know I've been with this guy for three and a half years. This is like impossible. But he knows how to talk me down. And honestly, in the back of my head, I know I'm being ridiculous as well. But I feel like I'm just such a fun girl. I'm just a girl. I'm being ridiculous. I'm making things up, but I'm fun. Come on. That has to count for something. Me and my friends love to take trips together. And we took this trip to Joshua Tree. And I was like, I don't want to |
| 0:56.0 | stay in a hotel. I want to stay in like a really, really, really cute house with like a good kitchen. |
| 1:02.8 | Because when I'm like going to do like a girls trip, I absolutely love, love, love to, um, just like cook in the kitchen and not have to order room service and not |
| 1:15.2 | always have to go out to a restaurant or whatever. And look, I love my friends. I really do. |
| 1:19.5 | But lately, I don't get to see them as much as I like. So when we finally plan a trip together, |
| 1:24.0 | it has to count. I want every second to be quality time. That's why when |
| 1:28.2 | I'm traveling with friends, I look to book a stay on Airbnb. Airbnb is great because you can book |
| 1:33.3 | an entire place to yourself. Next time you're traveling, book a stay on Airbnb so you can actually |
| 1:38.4 | stay together. Hax is back for its fifth and final season, and so is The Hacks podcast. |
| 1:46.3 | Join the Hacks creators and showrunners, Lucia and Yellow, Paul W. Downs, and |
| 1:50.9 | Jen Statsky as they unpack the Emmy-winning comedy series. |
| 1:55.0 | On each episode, here's stories from the set, what goes on in the writer's room, and how |
| 1:59.3 | these beloved characters close out their |
| 2:01.2 | final season. |
| 2:02.5 | Watch Hacks streaming exclusively on HBO Max and listen to the Hacks podcast on HBO Max or wherever |
| 2:10.9 | you get your? Please. Tell me why. Oh, baby. |
| 2:38.0 | Welcome to another episode of Why Won't You Date Me? |
| 2:40.8 | A podcast, Remed Nicole Byer, was trying to figure out why I was so single, even though you could come all over my face and say, |
| 2:51.5 | uh-oh, |
| 2:52.0 | you have weird freckles. |
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