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The Thomistic Institute

Dating Like Mr. Darcy I Dr. John-Paul Heil

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Christianity, Religion &Amp; Spirituality, Society & Culture, Catholic Intellectual Tradition, Catholic, Philosophy, Religion & Spirituality, Thomism, Catholicism

4.8729 Ratings

🗓️ 18 September 2025

⏱️ 48 minutes

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Summary

Dr. John-Paul Heil investigates how virtuous courtship, compassionate secrecy, and sexual difference—as presented in Jane Austen’s novels—are essential for discerning authentic love and practicing self-giving in Catholic romance.


This lecture was given on April 22nd, 2025, at United States Naval Academy.


For more information on upcoming events, visit us at thomisticinstitute.org/upcoming-events.


About the Speakers:


John-Paul Heil is a Core Fellow in history, philosophy, Catholic anthropology, English, and theology at Mount St. Mary's University. He received his Ph.D. in history from the University of Chicago and is pursuing an MBA in marketing. He has received multiple awards from the U.S. and Italian Fulbright commissions. His writing has appeared in Time, Smithsonian, The Week, and Los Angeles Review of Books. He is the books editor at the University of Pennsylvania's Dappled Things.


Keywords: Charity, Compassionate Secrecy, Culture, Feminine Genius, Henry Crawford, Masculine Genius, Mansfield Park, Romance, Sexual Difference, Pride and Prejudice

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0:00.0

Welcome to the Tomistic Institute podcast.

0:06.2

Our mission is to promote the Catholic intellectual tradition in the university, the church, and the wider public square.

0:12.7

The lectures on this podcast are organized by university students at Temistic Institute chapters around the world.

0:19.3

To learn more and to attend these events, visit us at to mystic institute.org.

0:24.8

It is a very great honor to be here at the Naval Academy

0:28.1

and to be invited to speak for such a vibrant chapter of the TI,

0:32.0

but I'm afraid that my talk is going to run a little shorter than you might expect.

0:36.0

Because it's actually quite simple to date like Mr. Darcy fellas if you want the Fitzwilliam Darcy guide

0:42.9

to success with women here's what you got to do step one be rich and own a lot

0:48.9

of land step two you got to go to a party with your best friend, and as you're scanning the room for potential future wives, because what else would you be doing at a party?

1:03.4

Make sure that you insults the sister of the girl your best friend clearly likes.

1:08.1

Oh, and make sure that the sister can hear you insulting her too. And then as

1:11.7

soon as you're finished insulting her, take another look at her and realize actually she's gorgeous.

1:17.6

And then when the party's over, hang out with your best friend as much as possible on the off chance

1:20.9

you'll see her again. And when you do, really just be as awkward as possible as it slowly

1:26.3

dawns on you that this woman that you

1:27.7

initially brushed off is intelligent, witty, deeply cares about her family and likes all the

1:33.5

same things that you like.

1:35.0

And then as you're having a freak out about how you've totally messed up your chances with

1:38.4

the woman of your dreams, notice that your childhood friend turned nemesis is flirting with

1:42.6

her, the very man who attempted to seduce your

1:45.5

underage sister and who, I know, who unlike all the virtuous men in this world, who joined the

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