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🗓️ 8 August 2025
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International award-winning burlesque dancer Jessabelle Thunder joins Nicole to talk about why so many partners say they’re cool with burlesque - until they’re not. She shares how she transformed from a shy girl into a commanding headliner, the different styles of burlesque dancing, and the time she broke her ankle on stage mid-show. Jessabelle also relives a London date with an Irish DJ who argued he should be allowed to say the N-word. Plus, Nicole forgets her meds, spirals on the future of AI, and goes to a pet psychic to figure out why Cylde be biting.
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0:00.0 | Want to watch this episode? Catch the full video on YouTube. Just hit the link in the episode description. |
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1:00.9 | This is a headgum podcast. Have you ever dated anybody who didn't like the burlesque, who was like, |
1:08.9 | this isn't for me. This is too titillating. |
1:11.9 | The question is, have I dated anyone who actually liked it? Okay. Have you? Just the one that |
1:18.9 | put me in the class. Really? Everybody else has a problem with it. They're like, |
1:23.4 | oh, it's no big deal. And then later on, they're like, that was a big deal. That to me is so interesting because I feel like that's what happens with like, say, stripping or like any sort of like I show my body at night. Yeah. Like then they're like, no, I don't have a problem with it. And then they're like, actually I do. Have you ever worked through it? Like somebody was like, oh, I have a problem with it. |
1:46.0 | And you're like, okay, we can talk about it. |
1:47.8 | No. |
1:48.5 | Oh. |
1:49.0 | No, never. |
1:50.5 | I've never had an adult conversation about it. |
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