Dating Expert: Why Dating Today Is Nearly Impossible & How to Find True Love

The Mel Robbins Podcast

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Health & Fitness, Society & Culture, Education, Self-improvement, Mental Health, Relationships

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🗓️ 16 February 2026

⏱️ 63 minutes

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Summary

In this episode, you’re going to receive the best dating advice no one ever told you. Whether you’re single, dating, in a relationship, or listening because you’re looking for advice for someone you love - this episode will change how you think about dating and love. If you’re feeling discouraged, burned out, or you’re starting to wonder, “Am I ever going to find the right person?” or “Am I with the right person?” you’re not alone - and this episode is for you. Today, Mel sits down with Logan Ury, who is a Harvard-trained behavioral scientist, world-renowned researcher, dating expert, bestselling author of How to Not Die Alone: The Surprising Science That Will Help You Find Love, and one of the most trusted voices on modern dating and relationships. Logan is a fan-favorite and Mel has brought her back on the show for a brand new episode all about dating. She is going to give you the data, the psychology, and the tools you need to stop spiraling and start dating with confidence. Logan breaks down why dating feels so hard in today’s world - and how to stop repeating patterns that keep you stuck. She will also cover topics like rejection, attachment, and commitment. After today, you will know: -The 8 questions that instantly help you choose a better partner -What to text instead of ghosting - including a simple rejection text you can copy/paste -How to have the “What are we?” conversation without begging, negotiating, or abandoning yourself -How to break the anxious-avoidant loop that makes dating feel like chaos -What “the ick” really is - and how it keeps you single when you say you want love -How to stop dating burnout by dating more sustainably After this episode, you’ll know how to build deeper connections, find and keep true love, and show up as a better partner. For more resources related to today’s episode, click here for the podcast episode page. If you liked the episode, check out Logan’s first appearance on The Mel Robbins Podcast: The Best Relationship Advice No One Ever Told You For more dating and relationship advice, listen to this episode with Matthew Hussey: The Brutal Truth About Relationships You Need to Hear Connect with Mel: Order Mel’s new product, Pure Genius Protein Get Mel’s newsletter, packed with tools, coaching, and inspiration. Get Mel’s #1 bestselling book, The Let Them Theory Watch the episodes on YouTube Follow Mel on Instagram The Mel Robbins Podcast Instagram Mel's TikTok Subscribe to SiriusXM Podcasts+ to listen to new episodes ad-free Disclaimer

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0:00.0	Hey, it's your friend Mel, and welcome to the Mel Robbins podcast.
0:08.7	If you're in your 20s or 30s, I know you've had it with dating right now.
0:13.4	I've got two daughters, they're in their 20s, and all of their friends, regardless of gender,
0:19.1	are saying how toxic the dating scene is, the endless swiping, the
0:23.7	ghosting, the fact that everyone is dating a million people at the same time, not matching with
0:28.2	people who you're actually interested in, or wondering, are you ever going to meet anyone
0:32.7	normal? Or maybe you're not in your 20s, but you're like me. I'm a parent, or maybe you're an aunt or an
0:38.5	uncle, and you're worried because it sounds like a freaking nightmare out there. So I wanted to do
0:44.9	something about it. I've called in an incredible expert who is a data scientist and a dating coach,
0:50.1	and I need you to hear something. If you're listening to my voice right now or you're watching me on YouTube and you're starting to think you're going to be single forever, you're wrong. Today you're going to learn that there are specific data-supported things that you need to do when it comes to dating. For example, you're going to learn exactly what you need to change on your dating app profile to get more matches with people that you actually
1:11.6	might be compatible with. Second, you're going to learn specific things that you could be doing
1:16.5	every single day in your life that will help you meet awesome people. Third, you're going to learn
1:21.1	about the myth of the spark and the importance of the slow burn. You're also going to learn
1:25.3	shocking statistics about what actually creates a match,
1:28.8	and it's not what you think. And finally, our expert has eight questions you need to be asking yourself,
1:33.9	because based on the research, right now, you're probably looking for the wrong person, and you're
1:40.2	focused on the wrong things. Today, you and I are going to use data, research, and expert relationship advice
1:46.3	to take the frustration out of dating apps and put the power back in your hands.
1:50.8	So let's get into it.
2:07.0	Hey, it's your friend, Mel. I'm so fired up that you're here. It is always such an honor to spend time with you to be together. I wanted to take a moment and welcome you if you're new, because this is
2:11.4	one of those episodes that I know is getting shared all over the planet. And so if you're brand new,
2:16.6	welcome to the Mel Robbins
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