Dating Burnout, Rock Bottom, and the Power of Being Alone
Seeing Other People
Ilana Dunn
4.5 • 608 Ratings
🗓️ 9 September 2025
⏱️ 54 minutes
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Summary
After years of back-to-back heartbreaks, author Abby Rosmarin hit relationship rock bottom and made a radical decision: she stopped dating—completely—and committed to an entire year of choosing herself. Abby shares how she went from chasing love to enjoying her own company, and rebuilding from the inside out. We talk about loneliness, self-discovery, codependency, sexuality, and why, for her, being single with cats really does beat being lonely with the wrong person. Her new memoir The Year of Dating Myself is out now! Learn more at abbyrosmarin-author.com.
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| 0:00.0 | This podcast is brought to you by Podcast Nation. |
| 0:08.6 | I am so excited for today's conversation because I just know, A, it's something that I needed to hear and would have related so hard to. |
| 0:19.2 | And B, I think it's going to inspire so many people right now |
| 0:23.2 | because this guest is not only is she an author, but she is somebody who has been through all |
| 0:30.4 | of it. She's been in the trenches in dating in relationships and she has come out on the other side |
| 0:35.1 | as the best version of herself. Abby Rosemary, welcome to seeing other people. |
| 0:39.8 | Oh, thank you. |
| 0:40.6 | Thank you for having me. |
| 0:42.1 | I am so excited to hear, I know we're only going to scratch the service, but like as |
| 0:46.8 | much of your story as possible. |
| 0:48.8 | You just had a new book come out earlier this summer called The Year of Dating Myself, |
| 0:53.3 | how my solo Tour healed more than |
| 0:55.0 | just my heartbreak. Congratulations. Oh, thank you. How has it been since you put all of that |
| 1:02.8 | out there? How have you been feeling? You know, it's so interesting because as you can imagine, |
| 1:08.5 | the publishing process is a very long process. The year |
| 1:11.4 | of dating myself was years ago. So to kind of get to look back on this time and, you know, |
| 1:18.7 | as egotistical as it might sound, I remember when I first got my author copies in hand, |
| 1:23.0 | and I started reading through this book that, honestly, especially after it went to print, |
| 1:29.0 | I had edited so much first by myself and then with my editor after getting my book deal i didn't want to touch it i didn't |
| 1:34.8 | i hadn't looked at it in over a year and to just kind of read back on this and read back on this time |
| 1:41.3 | was just like wow it almost feels like, honestly, it feels like |
| 1:44.4 | felt like it happened to somebody else, which in some ways made it a little bit easier to know |
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