All right, team, welcome back to The Man Talk Show.

Connor Beaton here.

And today, we're going to talk about the one thing that you should never put up with from an

avoidant.

And this is a tricky one, but I see avoidance doing this all the time.

I used to deploy this when I was an avoidant.

And it's the tactic that you have to

overcome if you want to have a really meaningful relationship with them. So the truth about

dating an avoidant person is that when they're really pressed for connection, closeness,

intimacy, their natural and baked in response is to feel threatened. It's to actually

push that type of intimacy and connection away because it feels off-putting to them. It feels like a

threat to them. It feels like they're losing a sense of individuality or independence.

And so they are going to reject it in some way,

shape, or form. And this comes in two different challenges. The first is when you are asking for

some type of closeness or intimacy that the avoidance is uncomfortable with, right? Maybe you're

asking to have more regular texting connection. Maybe you're asking to have more regular texting connection. Maybe you're

asking to have more regular date nights. Maybe you're asking to see each other more frequently, right?

Because with avoidance, it's very classic that they kind of show up in your life or everything's

kind of on their schedule and is few and far between. So anytime that you are asking for some

type of closeness, it can trigger the

response that I'm about to describe. The second thing is when some type of disconnection has

happened, maybe a conflict or an argument, and the two of you are trying to reconnect in a way

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