Dating Advice #3 (2020 Rerun)
Psychology In Seattle Podcast
Kirk Honda
4.6 • 1.2K Ratings
🗓️ 29 January 2023
⏱️ 137 minutes
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December 11, 2020
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| 0:00.0 | Hey, Desirman Listeners. It's time to continue answering people's questions about dating and |
| 0:05.2 | relationships. A while back, I asked people to email or to comment about their questions. |
| 0:12.4 | And I got so many that I think this is the fourth episode in which I'm answering people's |
| 0:16.7 | questions. So let's get to it. This question is from SAW on YouTube. They write, |
| 0:23.2 | I have PTSD from ex-boyfriends who are physically, verbally, sexually, and emotionally abusive. |
| 0:28.6 | I'm sorry to hear that SAW. My husband, who isn't any of those things, feels like I take it out |
| 0:33.4 | on him when I am triggered because of my, because of my past experiences. How do I stop my triggers |
| 0:40.3 | from affecting my relationship and of comment? All right, so you believe you have PTSD from being |
| 0:49.8 | abused in the past and your husband who is nice and is not abusive, feels like you take it on |
| 0:56.6 | on him when you're triggered because of your past experiences. Well, that wouldn't be uncommon. |
| 1:01.6 | We would have to wonder if that is an accurate assessment of you. But in general, |
| 1:07.8 | it would be expected that when we go through relational traumas that they're going to be triggered |
| 1:12.4 | when we're in an intimate, close, romantic relationship, that's just the way it goes. |
| 1:17.7 | And you ask, how do I stop my triggers from affecting my relationship? Well, |
| 1:23.6 | the, you approach it from a holistic approach. You don't, a lot of people just say, I just, |
| 1:31.0 | you know, I want to, I'm going to try not to be triggered. Well, okay, you have to get therapy |
| 1:36.9 | and in therapy, what you do is you identify the triggers. You learn how to regulate your emotions. |
| 1:44.0 | You learn how to mitigate or reduce the triggering. You learn how to regulate your, you know, |
| 1:50.0 | how to notice your emotions regulate and mainly distress. For a lot of people with PTSD or trauma |
| 1:55.8 | reactivity, they don't notice that they're triggered until it's too late. And so a big part |
| 2:01.6 | of PTSD management is knowing when, you know, so if we're on a scale from one to 10, |
| 2:09.9 | and by the time you notice, you're like an eight or a nine, the trick is is you have to notice |
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