Dasha, The Emotionally Invalidating Narcissistic Dad, & Aunt Lena - Domestic Abuse, Narcissist Abuse, Generational Trauma

Narcissist Apocalypse: Patterns of Abuse

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🗓️ 3 October 2022

⏱️ 114 minutes

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Summary

Dasha's family was controlled by her emotionally invalidating narcissistic dad. It was the cult of her father. And unfortunately for Dasha, she cracked under the pressure of mixed messages, expectations, and keeping herself small. However, a funny thing happened to Dasha while she battled depression, a light burst through those cracks. And Dasha finally began to take the necessary steps to live a life free from the family and her dad's controlling thumb. Brandon talks to Dasha about her narcissistic father and his emotionally incestuous relationship with her Aunt Lena, her views about his abusive romantic relationships, being abandoned by her mom, smear campaigns, mixed messages, emotional invalidation, the cult of family, gossip as currency, depression, stonewalling, finding autonomy, neglect, generational trauma, scapegoats, golden children, family dynamics, competition, financial abuse, animal abuse, perfectionism, being voiceless, not allowing emotions, anxiety, reactive abuse, nitpicking, rejection, suicidal ideation, rage, the silent treatment, lies, gaslighting, eating disorders, breaking free, and much more. *** TRIGGER WARNING - This episode discusses animal abuse and suicidal ideation. *** If you want to be a guest on our survivor story podcast, please click here or send us an email at narcissistapocalypse@gmail.com To take a free Enneagram Test, click here. Thank you to our sponsor BETTERHELP. If you need online counseling from anywhere in the world, please do go to https://www.betterhelp.com/nap Get started today and enjoy 10% off your first month. If you or someone you know are experiencing abuse, you are not alone. DomesticShelters.org offers an extensive library of articles and resources that can help you make sense of what you're experiencing, connect you with local resources and find ways to heal and move forward. Visit www.domesticshelters.org to access this free resource. Join our new Community Social Network at https://community.narcissistapocalypse.com/ Join our Instagram Channel at https://www.instagram.com/narcissistapocalypse Join our Youtube Channel at https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCpTIgjTqVJa4caNWMIAJllA

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0:00.0	On this episode of Narcissist Apocalypse, we talk with an abuse survivor named Dasha,
0:06.5	and Dasha was raised by a narcissistic father who was emotionally enmeshed with his caretaking sister.
0:12.8	It's a story of mixed messages, emotional invalidation, the cult of family, gossip as currency,
0:26.3	depression, stonewalling, and creating autonomy. Music Welcome to Narcissist Apocalypse, everyone.
0:50.8	I am Brandon Chadwick, and with today we have Dasha. How are you?
1:00.0	I'm doing very well. How are you? I'm doing well. Thank you for asking. And today we're going to hear your story. This story is about your family, about your narcissistic father, but it is also about the cult of family.
1:18.9	And a lot of it has to do with your aunt in the enmeshment or emotional incest that occurs between your father and your aunt and how it really affects
1:32.3	the rest of the family and everything seems to be like an offshoot of that, even though
1:36.5	the main story is about you, of course, and what you're dealing with. That dictates a lot
1:43.9	to do with everything, even though it's
1:46.4	behind the scenes and we might not talk about a lot of it. It will just be mentioned throughout
1:52.3	the episode. So it's really interesting as far as how your family works and how your dad is being
1:59.4	the caretaking that goes into your dad and how your dad is being the caretaking that goes into your dad and how the women in the family
2:05.7	are the caretakers for him and he's this godfather-like figure in a way in that aspect. So a really
2:13.1	big thank you for being here and sharing your story. There's a lot. Everyone, this was, you sent me a lot of
2:19.3	stuff. There were 32 pages you sent me in to get it down here. This is our second time recording
2:25.4	to get into the form for everyone to hear. It took a little bit of time and I just want to thank you
2:32.7	for helping me in that process to do this.
2:36.5	It's not always easy to get a story that's so long into such a short amount of time.
2:41.7	So a big thank you there, Dasha, for doing that.
2:46.5	And as well, everyone, there's a couple of trigger warnings in this episode.
2:50.3	There's suicidal ideation discussion in this episode.
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