Dan Harris and Oren Sofer
The One You Feed
Eric Zimmer
4.6 • 2.5K Ratings
🗓️ 4 May 2016
⏱️ 53 minutes
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Summary
mindful communication
Our guests this week are Dan Harris and Oren Sofer.
Dan was a previous guest and we discussed his great book, 10%
Happier. In addition, Dan is the current anchor on the weekend
edition of Good Morning America as well as Nightline.
He has begun creating a series of courses based around 10%
Happier. One of those courses features Oren Sofer.
Oren is a teacher and practitioner of Buddhist meditation,
Nonviolent Communication (NVC), and Somatics. Oren is a specialist
in the role of mindfulness in creating better conversation.
This conversation was recorded in Dan's office in the ABC
Studios in New York.
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In This Interview, Oren Dan and I Discuss:
The One You Feed parable
Why mindfulness is useful in communication
The
10% Happier app
Learning to see confrontation as an opportunity to improve the
relationship
How our cultural conditioning teaches us the Win/Lose
paradigm
How we have a strong negative conditioning against
confrontation that becomes hard-wired
How mindfulness allows us to slow down and monitor our
emotional reactions in conversation
The role of curiosity in communication
How to become more curious
Learning to ask "What matters here" when listening to
others
Learning to say that we don't feel like talking instead of just
pretending
The minor discomfort of being real
How to say things in a way that the other person can hear and
understand
Learning to hold our tongue in certain situations
How being silent can lead to its own challenges
The importance of timing in choosing when to address
issues
Context sensitive communication
The two criteria of good communication: does the other person
understand and does it lead to connection
Dan Harris Links
10% Happier Homepage
Oren Sofer Links
Homepage
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| 0:00.0 | tragedies, I don't know what the word is of our society is that we're all so nice. We're all trying to be so nice. |
| 0:06.0 | Dan's not, come work in the newsroom. |
| 0:10.0 | Welcome to the One You Feed. |
| 0:19.0 | Throughout time, great thinkers have recognized the importance of the thoughts we have, |
| 0:24.0 | quotes like garbage in, garbage out, or you are what you think, ring true. |
| 0:29.0 | And yet, for many of us, our thoughts don't strengthen or empower us. |
| 0:34.0 | We tend toward negativity, self-pity, jealousy, or fear. |
| 0:38.0 | We see what we don't have instead of what we do. |
| 0:41.0 | We think things that hold us back and dampen our spirit. |
| 0:45.0 | But it's not just about thinking, our actions matter. |
| 0:48.0 | It takes conscious, consistent, and creative effort to make a life worth living. |
| 0:53.0 | This podcast is about how other people keep themselves moving in the right direction, |
| 0:57.0 | how they feed their good wolf. |
| 1:11.0 | In the 70s, the warehouse took over Chicago Nightlife, and the club's DJ would go on to make history. |
| 1:18.0 | Frankie made sure that you felt it in your soul. |
| 1:21.0 | Learn more about the rise of house music on the history of the world's greatest night clubs. |
| 1:26.0 | A 12-part podcast about the iconic venues and people that revolutionized how we party. |
| 1:33.0 | Listen to the history of the world's greatest night clubs on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcast, |
| 1:38.0 | or wherever you get your podcasts. |
| 1:41.0 | Thanks for joining us. |
| 1:44.0 | Our guests this week are Dan Harris and Orrin Sofher. |
| 1:48.0 | Dan was a previous guest and we discussed his great book, 10% Happier. |
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