All right, men, welcome back to the man talk show.

Connor Beaton here.

And today we're going to be talking about the most important thing when it comes to

creating consistent connection and intimacy in your relationships, specifically with women.

Before we dive into that, don't forget, man it forward.

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absolutely hate this, do you think. All right, let's dive straight in. One of the things that we as men

vastly underestimate when it comes to dating women is the importance of safety to women.

They might not use the word safety directly, but in a lot of their communication and in a lot of

their behavior, safety is at the forefront of what they are looking for. So for an example, there's a great saying,

I don't remember who said it, but somebody smarter than me and wiser than me whose name I can't

remember said, women test men or women punish men that they like. Women punish men that they like. I think

it was Dr. Orion Terriban. Now, why do they do that?

Women are testing men that they like because they are testing for safety. They are testing for

safety. You might have heard of the shit test. You might notice that women sometimes will test you

to see, can they provoke your anger?

Can they get a rise out of you?

Can they get you to become reactive?

Why do they do that?

They do that because they are testing for emotional safety, physical safety, relational safety.

They might be looking over your shoulder at what you're texting, trying to get a glimpse of, you know, what are you looking at on Instagram? What are you looking at on YouTube? Who are you actually texting? And sometimes they'll do those things. And this isn't to excuse all behavior that women deploy to test safety, right? Because sometimes they will do things that do cross a line,

do cross some boundaries. And it's important to reaffirm and set those boundaries back in place.

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