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She's So Lucky

Creating Connection in a Digital World: Shan Boodram on Friendship, Modern Love and Algorithmic Attachment

She's So Lucky

She's So Lucky

Health & Fitness, Entrepreneurship, Business, Education, Self-improvement, #Shessolucky, Balancedblackgirl, Lesalfred, Balancedles

4.8 • 2.5K Ratings

🗓️ 7 October 2025

⏱️ 60 minutes

🔗️ Recording | iTunes | RSS

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Summary

#313: If you’ve ever felt like you’re not measuring up to where you “should” be—whether that’s finding partnership by a certain age, building lasting friendships as an adult, or navigating the expectations society throws at you—this episode is for you.

Today, I’m sitting down with the always insightful Shan Boodram to talk about the real journey of connecting—from romance, to friendship and everywhere in between. Shan doesn’t shy away from the messy, inconvenient parts of connection—whether it’s dating in a world that prizes efficiency, how algorithms influence our decisions and attachment styles, or the challenges of learning how to nurture deep friendships later in life.

We dive into why your age or relationship timeline doesn’t define your worth, how to find and nurture love that truly sees you, and why inconvenience might be the secret ingredient to building bonds that last. Shan shares her wisdom on how to show up authentically in both romantic and platonic relationships, break away from rigid dating rules, and live a big, joy-filled life at any stage.

If you’ve ever questioned whether it’s too late for new love or genuine friendships—or if you’re simply craving more meaningful connection—hit play on this episode.

We talk about:

  • How online algorithms are impacting our attachment styles and preferences
  • Navigating dating and romance without falling into the efficiency trap
  • The truth about cultivating friendships as an adult
  • The power of showing up, even when it’s inconvenient
  • Letting go of dating rules and loving by your own standards


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0:00.0

The following podcast is a dear media production.

0:11.8

Welcome back to She's So Lucky.

0:13.3

My name is Les.

0:14.0

I'm your host.

0:14.8

This is the show all about creating our own luck.

0:17.8

And I'm very excited to actually welcome back a special guest today, who I had

0:22.0

back on the show when I first started, like a million years ago. Stop making me sound old.

0:27.7

No, I'm making my face sound old. Where, you know, it was definitely a long time ago. My very

0:32.5

early days of podcasting, but I am so excited to welcome Shan, Budram, Brady back to the podcast. Oh, wow. You put

0:40.2

the Brady in there. The full name. Okay. Yeah. What's up last? Good to see you. It's good to see you, too.

0:45.1

It's exciting to do this in person. Yes, it is. Congratulations on all the continued success.

0:49.6

On the resilience, you have been a great inspiration to me as a podcaster. You're so good at what you do. And it's just amazing. I just think in general, when I first started into the creator space, I had a conversation with an accountant who basically was like, hey, let's, we're going to work backwards because you have about two years to have a career. So you want to be able to save and plan for that long term. And whenever I see people who

1:12.8

have been doing anything for longer than two years, I'm like, we made it. We did. We're still here.

1:17.5

I remind myself that often. Just to even still be here is such a gift. To still have people's

1:23.6

attention in time is such a gift. To still get invitations like this is such a gift.

1:32.3

Yeah. That's beautiful. Thank you. And such a big compliment coming from you, I feel like as a creator and as someone who I've followed for most of your creator journey, seeing the different

1:36.7

ways that you have pivoted and dedicated yourself to education and learning and continuing to meet

1:43.0

the moment is super inspiring to me.

1:44.8

Yeah, thank you for that. We got to stay in this. We really do. While making space,

1:49.6

you know, I think I was joking with you about the old word, but that is a word that I champion.

1:54.3

You know, I think being a pioneer, being an OG, being old, and being an old person that young people can look up to is something that,

2:03.1

interestingly, I think, that I've always started in the big sister role. So I was never like

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