Create a Happier Version of Yourself: Redirect Your Energy for Positive Thinking

The Mel Robbins Podcast

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Society & Culture, Self-improvement, Mental Health, Relationships, Health & Fitness, Education

4.6 • 15.4K Ratings

🗓️ 2 July 2026

⏱️ 65 minutes

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Summary

In this episode, you will learn how to take back your power when you’re in the midst of change, stress, or uncertainty, and then redirect your energy for self-transformation. If there’s an area of your life that you’re feeling unhappy about and want to take control over, today’s episode will show you exactly what to do. Joining Mel in this deeply personal episode is her 21-year-old son Oakley. He candidly shares how he went from feeling stuck and lonely, to finally feeling happy again, and the simple mindset shifts and changes that made the biggest difference. He and Mel openly unpack how to go from feeling unhappy about a situation you feel like you don’t have a lot of control over, and how to move through it. In this episode, you’ll learn: -How the fantasy version of your past keeps you from seeing what’s possible now -How to know whether it’s you or the situation that needs to change -Why it’s unfair to criticize where you are if you haven’t done this one thing -How long you should give a new situation before deciding if it’s the right fit -The 4 things you may be doing to keep you stuck and unhappy -The signs that you’re “quietly quitting” the situation you’re in -The science of luck and what happy people do to make their own luck -The first thing you need to do when you’re unhappy and want your life to feel different Here’s the hard truth: nobody is coming to rescue you - and that’s good news. It means you have more power than you think. The moment you see what’s keeping you stuck, you can start changing it. After today, you’ll know exactly what needs to change first. For more resources related to today’s episode, click here for the podcast episode page. If you liked the episode, check out this one next with Dave Evans and Bill Burnett: How to Design Your Life in 1 Hour Connect with Mel: Order Mel’s new product, Pure Genius Protein Get Mel’s newsletter, packed with tools, coaching, and inspiration. Get Mel’s #1 bestselling book, The Let Them Theory Watch the episodes on YouTube Follow Mel on Instagram The Mel Robbins Podcast Instagram Mel's TikTok Subscribe to SiriusXM Podcasts+ to listen to new episodes ad-free Disclaimer

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0:00.0	Hey, it's your friend Mel, and welcome to the Mel Robbins podcast.
0:08.8	All right, I have a personal story that I am dying to share with you, and I'm also really excited
0:14.4	because our 21-year-old son, Oakley, is going to be joining me on this episode, and you are
0:20.2	going to get so much out of this.
0:21.9	So here's the story. A couple weekends ago, our son came home. He's a sophomore in college.
0:27.5	And I was so shocked at how happy he was. And the reason I was shocked is because he's been miserable
0:35.7	at school for about 18 months, like the lowest I have ever
0:40.9	seen my son in his entire life. And it makes you realize that I guess you never truly understand
0:48.1	just how sad someone is until you see them happy again. And it's been so hard to watch him struggle in college.
0:56.1	Like I'm like, maybe you should transfer.
0:57.7	Maybe you're in the wrong place.
0:58.9	Maybe you made a mistake.
1:00.3	You can't find your people.
1:01.8	You're just so unhappy.
1:04.8	And as hard as it's been for me and for my husband Chris to watch him struggle,
1:09.9	I know it's a lot harder to be the person
1:12.2	that's unhappy. I mean, from the outside, you can feel how sad and disconnected they are. You hear it
1:20.4	in their voice. You see it in their energy. You know you're just not yourself. And if you're the person
1:26.0	who's unhappy, over time, something happens. You become so
1:30.3	discouraged. You start to believe this is how your life is always going to feel. And so we asked
1:36.4	our son, what happened? And as he started to detail the things that had changed, there were four specific takeaways that emerged. And these are
1:48.4	really interesting takeaways because they're very useful whether you're unhappy right now in your
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