Hello and welcome to the Empowered Couples podcast. We're here you get modern, non-boring

relationship advice for you and your partner to communicate like pros, fight smarter, and stay on the

same team. No matter the challenge that you face, I am one of your hosts, Aaron Freeman.

And I'm Jocelyn Freeman, but you all just know us as the Freeman's.

This episode is titled, Couples with Great Communication do this one thing

differently. There seems to be this idea that if you aspire for great communication and you see,

oh, well, they've got it figured out. I want to be like them. We need to work on our relationship

so we can communicate like them. There's this idea that that means it will be easy.

Or that once you master all the skills and tools, we'll listen to every episode the Freemans have

come out with, we'll do their course, we'll do their challenge, and then we'll reach this

like pinnacle of always getting it right. And we want to break that up. up yeah and mostly i feel like it's that you

will like dramatically reduce the conflicts or the tension that you feel the real practical life of

this is you will have tension and challenges you will get upset with each other. You'll have unmet expectations happen.

You will not get rid of that. It's a part of what it is to be a human being. We could do a whole

episode on that, which we probably have in the past. You will have different preferences for your own individual quality time to time together to how the house is

set up and organized and parenting and work life balance and all that stuff these are going to be

different your needs will seem to be conflicting with one another at times you will make withdraws from the other person's love account.

And you will do that more than the deposits at times.

And then that will have you feel like comments that your partner makes are more harsh,

that are more personal attacks.

You'll be more defensive.

And with all that happening, you will escalate simple conversations into conflicts.

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