Listener named Joe writes in, Hello Pastor John, I am a young complementarian man dating

a young evangelical feminist woman.

We are considering marriage.

What do you think would be good or bad about a marriage with this dynamic?

Would this make a more accurate portrayal of how the church follows Christ or would it

be a heavier distraction?

How do you think a complementarian and a galletarian marriage could work out practically

and how do you think the relationship would suffer?

My question, Joe, is which of you, you or your wife, future wife, will choose to sacrifice

your conscience and with it your integrity to make the marriage work?

There is no doubt one of you will have to sacrifice a good conscience.

You would enter the marriage believing that it is God's will for you to fulfill the

role of head as you see it laid out in Ephesians 5, 22 to 33.

She would enter the marriage believing that it is God's will that you not assume a special

role as leader or head.

You will enter the marriage believing it is God's will that your wife be subject to your

loving leadership, the way the church is subject to Christ in Ephesians 5, and she will enter

the marriage believing that there is no such teaching in the Bible and that God does

not expect that of her and it would be wrong, in fact, to say that God does.

You will enter the marriage believing that God calls you to raise your children in the

instruction of the Lord, including his instruction that your sons should be husbands who lead

out in marriage and your daughters should be wives who submit gladly to their husbands

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