Time now for a refresher from my Dr Laura Call of the Day Archives.

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Eastern time on Serious XM Triumph 2011.

Michael, welcome to the program.

Hi, Dr. Laura, first time caller, a long time listener, love your program, love the advice you give to people and

I've taken some of it in the past and I really appreciate what you do I'm a

veteran as well retired Coast Guard so thank you so much for what you do for vets as well.

Thank you.

You're very well. My question, yes ma'am, my question regards my wife post surgery from a brain surgery that had to do with melanoma spreading to her brain and since then a side effect of the surgery has been that she has increased

anxiety and a little bit of anger along with that anxiety at times, right?

And I could see it building at times

where I'm trying to come up with better ways

to approach her or to try to de-escalate when I do see her having those moments and telling her

asking her to calm down or relax isn't cutting the muster that seems to have the opposite effect of what I'm trying to

accomplish so I was wondering if you had any tools or recommendations on how I could

either change my approach or when she's not in one of those modes

she is aware that they do happen right yes ma'am And how frequently do they happen?

I would say once or twice a month it builds up and then there's a release of this and then of course. Okay, stop, I just wanted to know how often it happened. Just stop. Okay, so when she's not in one of those modes, she does know that they happen and she's clear on how she behaves.

Yes. And has she said, has she described what the experience is from her end? What does it feel like to her?

How does she describe it when she's not in it?

Right.

She feels like she just doesn't have control

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