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Don't Mom Alone Podcast

Coping Mechanisms, Recovery and Codependency :: Taylor Bashta [Ep 275]

Don't Mom Alone Podcast

Don't Mom Alone Podcast

Education, Leisure, Kids & Family, Parenting

4.9 • 2.3K Ratings

🗓️ 24 February 2020

⏱️ 51 minutes

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Summary

Twelve years into her marriage, Taylor Bashta knew that something was wrong. Her husband who had always been a casual drinker had become more and more dependent on alcohol. She started Googling, “What is an alcoholic?” and wondered what she should do to intervene. 

Taylor bravely takes us into her story to share what she did next and how setting firm boundaries and seeking help took both her and her husband on a journey of healing. Now, one year later, she shares what’s made the biggest impact and what they are doing to continue their healing.

“He is the only person in charge of his recovery. And I am the only person in charge of mine. We can not let each other effect that. I still live wondering what we’d do if he relapses. I think that's one of the scariest parts of recovery. AA’s big slogan is 'One Day at a Time.' So that’s what we’re focused on. Just one day at a time.”

Taylor talks about how we can support friends who may be going through this type of situation and how sharing openly can make all the difference.  

“Hiding is what kills us inside. And our hiding is what invites that shame, guilt, and condemnation. When you put it out there, it's gone. You're putting away gossip, you're putting away just the pressure. When you name it, it takes the power out of it.” 

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Transcript

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0:00.0

Hey y'all, welcome back to the Don't Mom Alone podcast.

0:10.6

I am your host Heather McFadden, and this is the place where I'm going to walk alongside

0:15.7

you and connect you with people and resources so you know that you don't mom alone.

0:22.4

In this episode, number 275, I have the privilege of introducing you to Taylor Bashda.

0:30.2

So here I am.

0:31.2

I've got the two things that I want, but there's just too much.

0:35.9

In my mind, I'm thinking, how am I ever going to get past this?

0:39.4

I have so much anger, so much hurt, so much disappointment, so much bitterness at you,

0:45.1

at God, just what am I going to happen?

0:48.6

This isn't the person that I thought I married, and look what you put us through, the blame

0:53.8

game all the way.

0:55.2

I just knew I was okay.

0:56.9

I remember calling my mom and I just said, I'm not okay.

1:01.3

And I think if you can just say that, there is so much power in that because our hiding

1:07.7

is what killed us inside and our hiding is what invites that shame and that guilt and

1:14.4

that condemnation, all of that comes when we're hiding.

1:17.4

When you put it out there, it's gone.

1:20.0

You're putting away gossip, you're putting away just the pressure.

1:24.3

It's just gone.

1:25.3

When you name it, it takes the power out of it.

1:28.8

When adulting cranks up lots of little kids needing attention, careers requiring so much

1:38.2

time and energy, financial strain and marriage struggles, we oftentimes turn to substances

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