Welcome to the third episode of Conversations with Tom, with guest Ryan Holiday. This episode again shows an unfiltered, unedited, free-wheeling conversation between two thinkers who discuss their grandest dreams, their deepest fears, and their own sometimes self-contradictory beliefs. Listen as Tom Bilyeu and Ryan Holiday riff on everything from a broken piece of an old tombstone to the Cuban Missile Crisis, and discuss ideas ranging from stoicism to profit maximization. Nothing is off-limits on Conversations with Tom, so enjoy the intellectual ride! This episode is brought to you by: Impact Theory University. Check out Impact Theory University at: http://bit.ly/ImpactTheoryUniversity2 SHOW NOTES: Tom is concerned that he is violating the rule to only do one thing [1:23] Tom and Ryan discuss going where the heart goes but also making a profit [4:13] Tom and Ryan talk about Lance Armstrong and following your own principles [6:59] “Do people I respect really get a lot out of the book?” [9:59] What is the relationship between stillness and obsession? [11:12] Ryan talks about the dangers of survivorship bias and only looking at who succeeds [15:11] Tom riffs on the need to access dark side emotional energy [18:10] Ryan talks about death [26:47] Tom talks about potential immortality [32:26] Ryan discusses the relationship between accepting death and accomplishing greatness [35:04] Different situations call for solutions [39:05] Ryan attempts to define perspective [41:58] Tom talks about changing your brain chemistry to change what drives you [45:25] “You can’t teach YOUR old dog new tricks.” [48:44] Ryan and Tom discuss how to create momentum [50:22] Ryan and Tom discuss how to reach your real potential [53:20] How malleable are people? [59:29] Nobody expected Tom to succeed [1:02:02] Tom describes his fear that people turn off empowering messages if they smell BS [1:04:29] Tom and Ryan ask how to balance big goals and personal relationships [1:08:29] What is stillness and why does it matter? [1:17:46] Ryan illustrates stillness with the story of the Cuban missile crisis [1:21:52] Ryan explains how to cultivate stillness [1:31:23] Ryan and Tom discuss going to therapy [1:34:00] Tom talks about what he wishes he had gotten as a kid [1:37:56] Tom talks about people he loves that seem absolutely stuck [1:43:38] Progress depends on the irrational man [1:46:29] Ryan discusses what he hopes people get from his book [1:50:02] Tom asks how to step outside the limits of accepted beliefs [1:54:16] Ryan discusses the connections between stillness, enlightenment and fulfillment [1:58:01] Ryan and Tom discuss the dangers of new tech and social media [2:01:26] Tom talks about his history with drugs and alcohol [2:06:00] Ryan and Tom discuss meditation [2:09:08] FOLLOW RYAN: WEBSITE: www.ryanholiday.net INSTAGRAM: http://bit.ly/2kuHR1O FACEBOOK: http://bit.ly/2lIfvRV TWITTER: http://bit.ly/2mbhuyi