Control: The Great Illusionist | After Hours With Amanda Ep. 39

After Hours With Amanda

Kids & Family, Parenting

5.0 • 697 Ratings

🗓️ 16 February 2023

⏱️ 46 minutes

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Summary

In this episode of After Hours With Amanda, I’m talking about the illusion of control, the routines that make us feel safe, and what happens when life changes enough that the old systems do not fit the same way. This is a long voicemail about overbooking myself, somatic therapy, emotional hijacking, Starbucks rituals, food routines, In N Out Mondays, motherhood, faith, and learning that structure can support us without becoming the measure of whether we are okay. If your habits have shifted, your body feels different, or you are trying to hold everything together because you love your people, sit with me for a bit.

00:00 An Unintended Episode
00:32 Overbooking Myself Again
01:23 Teacher Features and Mini Golf
02:18 Valentine’s Parties and Garden Class
03:17 Thriving on Chaos
04:01 Somatic Therapy and Inside Out
06:11 When One Emotion Hijacks Everything
07:20 When the Body Holds the Feeling
08:00 Journaling Feels Too Honest
09:15 Reporting Versus Really Feeling
10:38 Family Photos and Full Circle Moments
14:32 Swim, Schedules, and Being Voluntold
15:16 The Illusion of Control
16:33 The Starbucks Ritual
20:31 When the Old Systems Break Down
22:19 Trying Decaf and Feeling Anxiety Rise
25:30 What If This Is Not My Jam Anymore?
26:16 Strawberries, Structure, and Flexibility
28:11 Habits Are Helpful Until They Hijack You
30:49 In N Out Mondays and Holding On
33:08 Faith When Everything Falls Apart
34:38 Control, Birth, and Sacred Moments
36:10 When Systems Become the Bar
37:19 Learning to Slow Down
38:10 Control Can Come From Love
40:24 Shaking Up the Systems
42:10 Parenting the Younger Parts of Me
43:27 Pivoting Without Calling It Failure
44:26 Valentine’s Day and Being Loved

Transcript

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0:00.0	Hi. Welcome back to another un-introred episode of After Hours with Amanda. I overbooked myself this week. Can we just like, can I be honest for a second here? If this is your first time visiting, welcome to After Hours with Amanda, the podcast that is about journeying life together,
0:25.0	sharing a lot of things parenting related, McDonald's Starbucks Taco Bell food, butt surgery.
0:32.3	We cover it all.
0:35.8	Yeah.
0:36.7	So, so many things.
0:38.5	Okay, first off, with everything that went on with me this year with health, I had told
0:43.2	myself, like, I'm going to take it slow.
0:46.1	I'm not going to dive in.
0:49.0	And you guys, balls.
0:51.9	I have literally this week been like, is there a spare hour where I can squeeze something
0:57.8	else in? Let's do that. Because I thrive that way. My mind thrives that way. My mental state
1:06.3	thrives that way. I don't know if that's because it's trying to block other things out or what. Oh my gosh,
1:11.7	I just looked on my bed and remembered we're doing, not to segue, but this is just our life together.
1:18.9	The girls at our school's auction, they auction these things called teacher features. They are
1:23.7	the item, right? They're part of the sign auction. They are a hot ticket item. The kids love
1:29.6	their educators. And like that makes my heart happy. They love the aides, the art teachers.
1:34.9	It doesn't matter if it's a specialty teacher, the homeroom teacher. They adore them. And so they do
1:40.0	these teacher features. And so we snagged our assistant athletic director's teacher feature
1:44.6	of mini golf. And with everything going on in life and stuff, we just couldn't make it happen.
1:48.9	So he'd reached out and said, like, so today the girls get out of school early and we are going
1:54.2	to go do that. I'm literally going to sprint after I record this to the rest of the day to get to there
1:59.9	on time. But I had told the girls this
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