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Fierce Marriage

Control, Surrender, Your Marriage, and You

Fierce Marriage

Ryan and Selena Frederick

Religion & Spirituality, Christianity

4.84.2K Ratings

🗓️ 25 June 2019

⏱️ 58 minutes

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Summary

The desire to control outcomes and realities is at the root of all marital discord. Why? Because at its root the desire to control that which is out of our control is rooted in a distrust of God. If our spouse is disengaged, we want to nag so he or she will re-engage. When our finances aren't where we want them to be, we work and spend too much in hopes of regaining control. The list goes on. When we feel like our present reality is at odds with our ideal situation, we are faced with a choice: either we try to change the situation ourselves, we lose hope, or we trust God's goodness and sovereignty. Which one do you think is wisest? Thanks for listening! Please remember to subscribe, rate, and review. As always, we welcome feedback... simply go to FierceMarriage.com/Podcast (https://FierceMarriage.com/Podcast) to leave a comment or to ask a question! Become a Patron! Support for the Fierce Marriage Podcast comes from partners like you via Patreon. If our content has helped you, we'd be honored if you'd consider becoming a Patreon supporter! Visit Patreon.com/FierceMarriage (https://Patreon.com/FierceMarriage).

Transcript

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0:00.0

So what do we mean by controlling your marriage? I think there's different areas within our marriage how we

0:07.0

Respond to things maybe that happened in our in our marriage or how we respond to our spouse

0:12.1

You know if we're trying to control their response or I think it's issues of control within marriage and how that affects

0:19.5

You know what I mean? Yeah, yeah, we were talking about this and became painful clear

0:26.6

How much control I lack I have no control

0:30.3

No, I became painfully clear that how control or the desire for control and the lack thereof is really at the root of every issue

0:37.6

That we face in our marriage

0:39.6

So we have to I mean we're compelled to look at what is the root of our need for control and where's that coming from?

0:45.6

So what do we mean? So what are some ways that we well? I think that we're trying to I mean we're gonna get into this in conversation

0:51.4

But when we try to take on things that we were never created to take on right? Yeah, that's good and

0:57.0

How like we'll talk about the in-communicable traits of God the communicable traits of God

1:01.8

So things that only traits that only God is and that we are not and when we try to take those on

1:07.4

Hello control and sovereignty

1:09.2

Then that's where the trouble starts happening

1:11.8

Realizing we this is a really big topic. So anyway, we'll see you on the other side

1:16.4

Welcome to the fierce marriage podcast where we believe that marriage takes a fierce tenacity that never gives up and refuses to give in

1:22.6

Here we'll share openly and honestly about all things marriage sex

1:26.6

Communication finance priorities purpose and everything in between

1:30.3

laugh ponder and join an uncanded gospel centered conversations

1:38.1

This is fierce marriage

1:46.5

Okay, I can't repeat what Sleen said I have to edit that Sleen said that's what she said to something that I said

1:53.1

And I can't put it in the podcast because we'll get we'll get people writing in about that. Oh, is it good one?

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