And that is the problem in Christian marriages when you think you're using the Bible and you're trying to have a Christian marriage

But you're applying it wrong. Well, we'll give one for the husbands here. My wife will not respect me

She counters me in front of other people. Honestly, this is the one thing that drives me nuts

We're with a bunch of husbands and wives and the husband will say last Tuesday

It should be like no it was one day

You know we went on vacation last June nope it was May and and this is

Constant and I'm like would you would you stop like but that's and it feels very disrespectful to a husband

And I get that so what should a wife respecting her husband look like

Well, I mean it ideally it should look like she respects you

Right like it's but here's the thing I discovered in my own marriage is that I have like a different measure of respect than my wife did

And so she would do things that are first early years of marriage that I was like I felt like that was disrespectful and she was like

Huh

Like there was there wasn't in her heart at all

Right, and so I learned to get thicker skin

She learned to get thinner skin

And we kind of balanced out a little bit so that she became more sensitive to potentially disrespecting me and I became

More gracious and understanding and not

An insecure punk

Because that's absolutely the way I'm wired to be I'm more inclined to be that way. I just

Somehow getting married just like pulls out every insecurity I have and puts it right there in front of

The marriage it's kind of weird and I think that that might be common for for couples

You get married all of a sudden all your insecurities and fears and stuff like that and it just creates a lot of tension in the marriage

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