These are my personal opinions.

Always seek a professional when you're making choices about your mental health and well-being.

I got a message once a while back from somebody who was married and their marriage was starting to go really sour.

It was really getting bad because the husband kept blaming the wife for everything.

He wouldn't take any responsibility and he would make her feel guilty and no matter what she did it wasn't good enough.

And he would always try to make her feel responsible

for everything wrong in the relationship and on and on. So I thought about that and I realized

there are a lot of people out there that do this kind of behavior, are sometimes passive

aggressive, sometimes active aggressive, and they'll do

and say things that make you feel bad. And that is their intention to make you feel bad. Their

intention is to make you feel bad in some way. The problem is they do it in a passive aggressiveaggressive way instead of a direct way or a direct

communication way where for example i guess you didn't take out the trash again it's sort of direct

but it's it's got an angry undertone or an upset undertone.

So if somebody says, I guess you didn't take out the trash again, that's sort of passive

aggressive because you're trying to express an emotion without saying what you feel.

And so that's kind of how I see passive aggressive behavior is when you're expressing an

emotion, not exactly telling the person what the emotion is. And to express the emotion,

it would sound more like this. I'm upset that you didn't take the trash out. Totally different

and very direct. And it's an emotionally

intelligent way to express yourself as opposed to, I guess when I get home, the trash is still

going to be piled up, isn't it? Where does that go? Where does that go when you talk to somebody like that?

I mean, granted, they were probably supposed to do it.

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