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So as a mom, we know you're going to do pretty much anything you can to help your kids but at the same time it's easy for one of your children to do something that really provokes you and gets on your nerves. If you're feeling overwhelmed as a mom,

you're working hard and they're not cooperating, we're happy to offer you a helping hand today.

I'm John Fuller with Dr. Danny Huerta, he's a professional counselor and leads our parenting and youth department here at Focus on the Family.

Jim Daly and I talked with Amber Leah and Wendy speak about things that can kind of set you off as a parent and I know

you're going to find this helpful. Amber I need that recap of what triggers are

just so we set for the audience what we're describing and talking about. So what are external triggers and

internal triggers? So triggers are all the things that set us off, make us

angry and frustrated. We might call them a button.

Yeah, there are buttons. They're totally our button.

Pressing our buttons, you know, making us irritated, whatever it may be. And there are lots of them,

as every parent knows.

Wendy and I are talking about, specifically 31 different ones

in our ministry, but the external triggers

are those things that your kids are doing,

the things that drive you crazy. You know, it is the back talk. It's this

sibling rivalry. It's the messy rooms that they have. All the things that just that they're

doing that we think are reasons for us to get angry about.

And then the internal triggers, those are the things that are a little more subtle.

Sometimes they're harder to pinpoint. It's when we explode, when they've done

something kind of minor, but we realize we've had no sleep for three days.

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