In my experience with myself, and with others, when we seek out another human we do so like a heat-seeking missile. We seldom, if ever…stop. And ask what we are wanting from the interaction. Often it’s merely transactional. Sometimes this is ok, in the workplace especially. But even then, whenever we want the best and most from someone we will serve them and ourselves well if we connect. And we can connect best with them when we again, pause for a moment, and connect with ourselves. How are we feeling about us? How are we feeling about the person we are about to approach? What are we wanting from the interaction?  I’m back with Laura Tremaine, host of the 10 Things To Tell You podcast and author of her most recent book, The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs. As you heard us cover in part one, friendships are, or can be, our life source. Here we continue the conversation as I walk with her through her Values, Motives, and Habits in the key areas of life fulfillment.  It’s on the topic of relationships where Laura cites she works to connect with herself before she can connect with others. We dig into that, and cover other subjects. Spiritually Laura talks about coming to Christianity, and today fully embracing Jesus, but not the religion of Christianity, which I sure can relate to.  Her health and wellness is a challenge and she shares how she came to a place and realized she’d lived her entire life from the neck up, and really has to work at caring for her body, as she cares for her mind.  Regarding mindset I asked Laura where she needs to watch out most, and she said she can tend to “Catastrophize” everything. On an interesting note, her husband Jeff is a television and film director, producer, and screenwriter and is best known for co-creating the reality stunt show Jackass with Spike Jonze and Johnny Knoxville.  June 15-16 of 2023 I’ll be in Dallas to attend and speak at the Ziglar coach summit. If you are looking to influence people for the better, professionally or personally, I invite you to join us. First 10 people who register and say you heard about it from me, I’m taking to dinner! Go to z i g l a r . c o m / c o a c h s u m m i t Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. For a limited time, Self Helpful listeners can get 20% off InsideTracker’s new Ultimate Plan. Visit InsideTracker.com/helpful. If you’re looking for a simpler and cost-effective supplement routine, Athletic Greens is giving you a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase. Go to athleticgreens.com/SELFHELP. This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Visit BetterHelp.com/selfhelpful today to get 10% off your first month. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices